Frustrating problem

[Singer12]

I would also suggest if this is a recent problem seeing how things in your life have changed over the last couple months. Have you gained weight, had more stress at work, lost sleep? These things can affect your performance. Kegels really do help btw. You might want to try working out if you don't already and/or trying some blood flow supplements like argenine.

[13Hearts]

Would it really be soo bad not to have quickies during the day?

I'm not talking about forever!

Little kids DO grow up whether we want them to or not!
Only 3-4 more years until they are both in school during the day.. and just look how quickly the last 5 years passed!

I would also guess that since your wife isn't worried about it, when she told you that sex last night was the best ever, it Might have been a subtle hint to stick to the night-time GOOD sex instead of just ANY sex?

As far as the erection thing....
So far, the only times that my husband has had a problem time keeping an erection.. was after we were in our 30's, Trying for a quickie during the day, with 4 small/medium children running around. and we did have locks on the doors, and no rubbers. (we opted for the vasectomy after the twins)

We have a theory, that as we get to know eachother's bodies better, If I am having a hard time relaxing (kid stuff on my brain) My husbands body senses that and he can lose it. And if he starts feeling pressured to get done in a short span of time, then my body senses that and then I can lose the mood. (you can see the spiral into permanent limpness right?) If we even start to talk about "it", that kills it for both of us.

Yet, I do have a suggestion for you. If you are feeling like a quickie, get the kids interested in something, anything, ( I like the coin toss, but for snowy days, maybe a succession of indoor activities like, color this paper or draw a picture, then eat this snack, then play with (insert name of favorite toy) until this timer rings(or beeps, or whatever) and give them a timer (like a kitchen timer that you can get for a buck) Set it for a bit longer than you think you need and tell the kids to wait until the timer goes off before they knock on your door.
Then, ACT like you expect them to comply and sweep your wife off her feet BEFORE either of you have a chance to think about anything else. If she starts to talk cut her off with a lustful kiss. this will keep your focus on her and she will most likely respond in kind, (and you can see the spiral Upwards now, right?)
but if the kids do knock on the door, just laugh together. and try to be the one who responds to them instead of your wife. (kids sense when parents are vulnerable) And the important part about being interrupted by kids.. DON'T open the door.. ask if the timer went off and tell them not to come back until it does... you may have to repeat this request several times, But just like getting them to sleep through the night in their own bed.. they will learn to wait for the timer which will be handy for lots of other things.
If the mood is gone.. wink at your wife and let her know you will try again soon! Don't talk about "it" except in terms of what "it" will be doing on the next try.

Just have fun trying. if you aren't having fun why do it?

Once our older kids were old enough to "watch" the little ones, we hired them to play games or make lunch or go for a walk. and when they got old enough to argue why they had to go to bed (14 and 12).. I finally just said straight out " because we want to have sex!" They about gagged and were like "don't tell us that! and I said " then don't make me tell you, just go to bed." and they haven't argued that point since.

[constantlylearning]

Ahhhh those are called precious moments. When you let your "body do all the talking." No words are need just maybe a few facial expressions.

[finewine]

Personally, I love the shower for quickies... the bathroom is sacred and it is wet, hot, and the sound of water running can drown out some of the sounds of ecstacy occurring.

I also love the 5am quickies, the naptime quickies, the kids at neighbors quickies, the stoplight quickie blow job........

Be creative...

[ua322]

Originally Posted by finewine

Personally, I love the shower for quickies... the bathroom is sacred and it is wet, hot, and the sound of water running can drown out some of the sounds of ecstacy occurring.

I also love the 5am quickies, the naptime quickies, the kids at neighbors quickies, the stoplight quickie blow job........

Be creative...

Sounds like a good gig if you can get it.

If your wife indulges in that many quickies, then you lead a charmed life.