Divorce from bordom

[Bender]

Iv been with my wife for 4 1/2 years and we have two daughters. We were both virgins when we got married so neither had a good understanding of sex for pleasure. She took a teaching job at a small college in a small town. We dont have many friends and we both buiried ourselve in work. With no romance and sex getting less and less we've got bored of of th rotine. Needing more she dicided to seperate and now has started seeing another man. Though we still love each other very much there just was no romance or passion. Well iv deicided not to give up and would like some advice on how to bring the passion back.

[WallyLlama]

You could call her up and ask her out!

It's important to remember that passion is not the basis of a relationship, love is. Simply recreating passion is only a temporary fix.

You say you haven't lost the love, so you've lost the focus on it perhaps... sacrificed it to your jobs and children?

You know a date isn't such a bad idea, because you'll be together in a setting that creates focus on each other. Don't talk about the kids and your jobs... talk about each other.

One of the things you might discuss is this: we live in an exciting, stimulating world. It's easy to forget that love isn't always about tearing each other's clothes off... that passion isn't about how hard and long you orgasm. Passion is about strength and depth of feelings and sometimes those feelings are quiet comfort.

Can you find that? Did you find it and not realize that it is enough?

The irony is this: when you find that and truly feel it... the excitement returns, it's just a different sort of energy.