Oral

[studman7]

So me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 and a half years now and she does not like to give me oral. To get it I usually have to beg and when i do get it, its only for a couple minutes, 4-5 at the most. *She has never pleased me orally all the way to ejaculation since we have been together. *I on the other hand enjoy pleasing her orally and I thought that the more I did it to her the more she would want to do it to me. *So how can I get her to give it to me without having to beg because that really just lessens the feeling when I know I'm only getting it because she feels bad.

[Brandye]

You have built your own little circular trap. A tautology as I recall from logic. You want a blow job but if she gives you a blowjob you will feel guilty because you know she does not want to.

What can we say? If she wants some advice, I can advise but if she does not want advice, you are going to become increasingly frustrated and seek oral satisfaction elsewhere. Most prostitutes will tell you this keeps them in business.

[canoestripper]

There is nothing you can say to her that will magically make her enjoy giving oral. If she doesn't want to do it, she's not likely to.

A little perspective:
I have been married over 16 years. In that time, I have given oral countless times, yet have never received. My wife once asked me what a "blow job" was, and after I picked my jaw up off the floor and explained it to her, she said, "Yuck, that's gross. I'd never be able to do that!" Do I want to experience oral? Certainly...It's right up there with wanting to win the lottery, and wanting to live on a yacht. LOL I can deal with it.

Your g/f is at least willing to give it a try. Maybe she's just insecure about doing it and would be more willing with a bit of encouragement instead of begging. Or maybe she just thinks it's gross. Have you even asked why she doesn't like it?

[studman7]

I have asked her why she doesnt like it and she just says that she doesnt like it because its not fun and after a while her jaw starts to hurt.

[j56h]

My wife's jaw gives her problems too. She is willing to give oral and actually initiates it once in a while without me suggesting it. I too start to feel a little guilty about her giving me oral when I know that it irritates her jaw. I don't really enjoy it enough that it is worth putting her through that, so I'll usually pull away before she's done. I'd much prefer vaginal sex anyway. One way to avoid the jaw problem is to only insert for short periods and instead have her give you some tongue along the head and shaft, then you can rub the shaft along her lips too. We both enjoy that. By the way, I also will give her oral whenever we have sex, unless she specifically asks me not to.

[iamawesum69420]

There's no way for her to just enjoy oral. You can't make her enjoy oral but maybe if you tried a few different things to maybe try and make it more enjoyable for her. Have you asked her if it is because of the taste? A lot of women don't like oral for that reason and there are a lot of flavored condoms and things like that for that occasion. They also make this stuff called "Good Head". It's for taste and also helps with the gag reflex. I've never used it because I actually enjoy oral but I've heard that it works for some couples. Also have you tried 69? That way the two of you are both getting pleasure at the same time. And make sure she is on top so she only has to do what she wants when she wants. Now these are just suggestions to maybe make it more exciting to her but if she just doesn't like oral then she just doesn't like it. Maybe the thought of ejaculation in her mouth disgusts her. You could either reassure her that you will let her know when it is about to happen and she could stop or use the flavored condoms so there is a more guaruntee.