jealous girl

[uncreativename]

How do you go about combating jealousy? It’s present all the time in every relationship, but how can I tell myself once and for all that I’m pretty and I shouldn’t care what others think? Any tips as I feel dreadful.

uncreativename

[WallyLlama]

Hmmm... gotta point out that it's interesting you want more (guys fancying you) of what you don't like your boyfriend getting (girls thinking he's hot).

To some extent, jealousy is not bad. It can be a reflection of love. Unfortunately it is more often a sign of insecurity and lack of trust.

That said, the key is to manage your jealousy. It would be unreasonable to think you will never feel some. Just don't let it rule you and your relationship. It helps to recognize that it is simply a feeling. How you think about that feeling will help you manage it. For example, it's okay to not like someone calling him "hot," but it's not so okay to want to kill them. It is, afterall, a compliment!

[uncreativename]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (WallyLlama @ Dec. 01 2005,09:57)]Hmmm... gotta point out that it's interesting you want more (guys fancying you) of what you don't like your boyfriend getting (girls thinking he's hot).

To some extent, jealousy is not bad. It can be a reflection of love. Unfortunately it is more often a sign of insecurity and lack of trust.

That said, the key is to manage your jealousy. It would be unreasonable to think you will never feel some. Just don't let it rule you and your relationship. It helps to recognize that it is simply a feeling. How you think about that feeling will help you manage it. For example, it's okay to not like someone calling him "hot," but it's not so okay to want to kill them. It is, afterall, a compliment!

thank you so much!

[iamawesum69420]

I know what you're going through. I get jealous when other girls seem to be into my boyfriend. For me it's because I'm insecure with myself which is often the case when jealousy is an issue. And in my case lots of bad experience with guys doesn't help either. I used to be a lot worse about it than I am now and my boyfriend is a BIG help. He compliments me all the time and tells me I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen. I find that whenever my self esteem is boosted that's when I'm not as jealous. And like you I always seem to feel really good about myself when I have someone chasing after me or some guy complimenting me even if he's just trying to get in my pants. You can't expect to these feelings to just go away because you want them to. They are normal and you just have to work through them and in a way just learn to deal with them. Sorry if this was a bit of a rambling. I seemed to have got off track a few times but I hope not too much.

[uncreativename]

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Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (iamawesum69420 @ Dec. 21 2005,21:26)]I know what you're going through. *I get jealous when other girls seem to be into my boyfriend. *For me it's because I'm insecure with myself which is often the case when jealousy is an issue. *And in my case lots of bad experience with guys doesn't help either. *I used to be a lot worse about it than I am now and my boyfriend is a BIG help. *He compliments me all the time and tells me I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen. *I find that whenever my self esteem is boosted that's when I'm not as jealous. *And like you I always seem to feel really good about myself when I have someone chasing after me or some guy complimenting me even if he's just trying to get in my pants. *You can't expect to these feelings to just go away because you want them to. *They are normal and you just have to work through them and in a way just learn to deal with them. *Sorry if this was a bit of a rambling. *I seemed to have got off track a few times but I hope not too much. *

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wow you sound a little like me in this sense. thanks so much - that was a great and v reassuring post! thank you!!