ever not taken seriously

[ductapefaerie]

So, I know you all are young and stuff, but I'm sure you can relate, because you once were, whether that be recently or not so recently. So, do you guys ever find people not taking you seriously, especially about relationship stuff, because of your age, or really because of anything?? See, I get this a lot because I'm only 18, but despite my age, I feel I'm fairly experienced in the relationship area, because I've had the same boyfriend for over 3 years. We've been through a lot. I don't know, I just feel like lately, my posts haven't been responded to as if I were an equal. Yeah...mostly ranting...and just wanting to make sure I'm not alone.

[Tessie]

Sorry you aren't feeling like you have been treated like an equal. Message boards have all sorts on them and not everyone is going to give you what you want.

I will say, I'm almost 40 and divorcing my second husband and entering a brand new relationship that really feels like my first in many aspects. You might know a lot and that should totally be validated. Just leave some room to grow, because you will rather you want to or not.

[oberon]

LOL, Ductapefaerie... I don't think it's your age. As Tessie says, it's just the nature of messageboards. I've written posts that *I* thought were pretty good, and no one really responded to them. And then, I've done some that were- from my perspective- kind of off-handed, and gotten good response. I guess the lesson is post what you feel will help someone and if it does, great! If it's ignored, then, at least, you've done what you can.

Take care.

[ductapefaerie]

really, it was more a person replying to a post in a way that made me sound like I hadn't thought about what I had posted about...I was just kind of upset that someone on this message board would act like that...since every experience I have had on here, or very nearly every, has been wonderful!!

[canoestripper]

Everyone looks at things differently. One person might tell you something to encourage you, while another could say essentially the same thing as discouragement. There are very few absolutes in life. LOL The best you can do is take it in stride, and go on.

Personally I think it is great that you are thinking about your future, especially in regard to having children. There are so many others that get caught by surprise...

[neverdiplomatic]

Well, I seriously hope you're not referring to my response to your other thread. If so, I apologise for making you think you're not being taken seriously. Age has dick all to do with emotion and experience. An eighteen year old is just as capable of being in love or having his/her heart broken as a twenty-eight year old.
My response to your issue had to do with a scary trend of girls I am acquainted with (most of whom are intelligent, delightful, interesting and fun) who fall in love with the idea of motherhood and have babies, not realizing that all the wonderful stuff is tempered by the not so wonderful stuff. They turn around and realise they aren't ready to give up their youth just yet and become miserable. No child deserves a miserable mother.
Try not to take what people say on message boards personally. I have had people tell me I should have aborted my children because I'm not Christian (wierd, huh?), people tell me they hope I die, and people tell me I'm a Nazi. All because I say what I think and am not afraid of the repurcussions. Don't sweat the small stuff. Enjoy your time online and forget about what some person who doesn't even know you thinks. Just say to yourself "this affects me how?"

[ShadowLynnParker]

Back in the day I joined a message board. It was a huge one with over one hundred thousand members on it. It was for two guys in the new york area called O n A. I was greeted with nothing less then hatefull posters. I would say have a great day and me killed for it. I was a younger women then and took revenge on the board. Needless to say that board is no longer here. I am older and more wiser and everyone should be treated with respect no matter who they are. I just try to be honest in my answers.Eighteen is a great age to be. PS ask Kyle if we are still on for friday. Dinner and that movie. Just keep posting and never let anyone get to you. Have a great night.

[Brandye]

Using Tess as a reference, I am somewhat older. I am also a well educated and respected professional. I am ignored or put down every day because I am a woman and age has nothing to do with it. Younger male patients sometimes have to hear it from a male before they take it seriously.

Every woman has the same story. We learn, we live, we get pissed, we move on.

[The1stTriSexual]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (neverdiplomatic @ Dec. 05 2005,15:06)]people tell me they hope I die, and people tell me I'm a Nazi. All because I say what I think and am not afraid of the repurcussions.

D@mn *what exactly do you think?

[kitty_robyn]

okay, i'm going to throw a little personal story out there. i'm 20, and 18 wasn't very long ago for me. when i was 18, i was in a relationship just like yours. since then, everything has changed. i thought i was going to be with this guy forever, yadda yadda, but he ended up being crazy and more importantly, i ended up changing. you'll form yourself a lot in these next few years, especially if you go to college, so don't feel like people are judging you because of your age, they just remember when they were in that exact same spot.... as for the nasty comment on another forum, well, it just seems that some people never grow up do they? lol. i guess what i'm rambling on to say is this: eighteen is beautiful. it's fun. it's magical. but it might not be you tomorrow or the day after that. let yourself grow and learn from your mistakes. and most of all remember that most people who give you advice that relates to age have been there and remember it all too clearly. best of luck.