Am I crazy, or is my GF crazy?

[Dogman]

I love my girlfriend!

[Brandye]

Life is too short to put up with this stuff.

[Tessie]

I agree with Brandye. Your girl friend has a whole lot of growing up to do before she should be in a relationship. Why are you allowing yourself to be treated like this? Don't you feel you deserve to be treated with love and respect from someone you call your girlfriend? Think hard on this and what is right for you. Good luck.

[Dogman]

I love my girlfriend!

[WallyLlama]

You might try looking at it this way: anyone who is that self-centered and wants that much control over other people is not THAT fragile.

You've already figured it out... any tears she sheds over a break up will be sadness that she lost the person who let her walk all over him - her victim. You can't really make it (the break up) easier on her because you haven't determined her view of you and the relationship, she has. Given that, you'll have to let her figure out how to deal with the non-existence of that relationship.

Don't be too surprised if/when she replaces you fairly quickly. Sounds like your value to her was as a victim. Her need to replace you will probably kick in fairly quickly.

Making it soft might include not saying much... just that you've decided it's not working or something. The more you talk to her the more likely she'll regain control or force you to tell it like it really is... which actually might be the kindest thing, but also the most painful.

[ShadowLynnParker]

Not your issue but hers. She seems to be testing you big time like you are her experment. She tests you all day and then gives you her diognosis over the phone. A relationship should be easy not work. You grown up and she is still in high school. I agree with my women posters. Life is short and move on. The man nor the woman is the boss, it is mutual.

[Dogman]

To make a long story short I didn't know what I had until I almost lost it. Lesson learned was just to let love rule. My GF found this website and noticed my posts, her reading them was one of the most harmful things I could have possibly did. What happened was I mentioned I posted on the web and she wanted to see what I wrote or we will never have full trust in each other, she wanted to know my true feelings. I let her see them and I admit i posted in the spur of the moment at being angry at the situation, I don't think anything can change me loving her but somewhere along the lines I took advantage of the fact that she will always be there and even after she read this she still felt strongly for me. I don't know how to explain it, but it really took me almost loosing her to realize how horrible it would be without her....

[Luvs2plzU]

Unfortunately it seems there is a definite control issue here!..You best study your relationship again...you cannot go thru life apologizing for your emotions or justifying them all the time. Good Luck

[Tessie]

I wish you the best. Sometimes your right and that a good jolt of reality with your real feelings is needed to help a relationship. Just always remember to be honest with yourself.