Spicing it up

[Brandye]

There are three recent threads here on sex life becoming duall. They are both male and female posts. The book Joy of Sex is back in print. And generally available at used book stores. It is probably the best compendium ever on ideas for sex. It includes ideas from all the classics (Kama Sutra, the Tantras, Perfumed Garden) and uses medical/sexual knowledge of modern times.

If you cannot find new ideas in there, you have exhausted all of sexual behaviour. The key issue is to agree that things nedd to become livelier and the read it together. It can also be a good idea to use some ideas "secretly" and when you partner asks where you are getting ideas, spring the book on him/her.

My g/f and I both read it in the "old days" when she was married and I was engaged. We now giggle over it but the ideas are still there for us.