Love my wife, but in a sexual rut....

[EvilEvilKitten]

The ladies have become non-communictive? The men have decided to not participate? People there are two types of communication. If verbal has not gotten you anywhere, try physical communication. IF that doesn't work - counseling!

Excuse me, but sex is never the same twice even with the same partner if you're paying attention.
Body Worship and The Program were written specifically to help you, any and all of you, to overcome the reluctance to have sex issue by giving you an expanded menu of options from which you can select things to do that will fire up your partner and do it slightly different each time without the need for toys, lingerie, games, and so forth.

Don't just quickly kiss her cheek before leaving for work in the morning - give her one of those bend over backward passion starters - then let her think about it for the rest of the day. Rub the reluctant hubby's rump as he walks out the door to work. Do finger caresses and eye kisses - sneak them in here and there. Make it play and your reluctant partner just might surprise you.

Before you ask - I have been married to the same wonderful man for 30 years now.

[GuruGuy]

I don't want to interrupt the new input on this thread, which is very interesting on an important topic, but I'm just checking people realise the original question was raised in 2005 and the OP hasn't been seen since then?

[sera300]

Originally Posted by GuruGuy

I don't want to interrupt the new input on this thread, which is very interesting on an important topic, but I'm just checking people realise the original question was raised in 2005 and the OP hasn't been seen since then?

That's what I said...GM pulled all the posts since it's a revolving door topic which comes up! I believe she did this as a response & demonstration to 2 new posters with questions; that sexual compatibility is important over the long marital haul.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The dates on this site are screwy - pay them no attention.

[gorgeous_mistake]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

The dates on this site are screwy - pay them no attention.

These threads are old. The dates are correct, for I searched and pulled them from the back.

Sera is right, it was mainly brought on by the 2 NEW posters who are experiencing problems such as these. And some other posters who disagree with pre-marital sex.

[gorgeous_mistake]

Originally Posted by GuruGuy

I don't want to interrupt the new input on this thread, which is very interesting on an important topic, but I'm just checking people realise the original question was raised in 2005 and the OP hasn't been seen since then?

Yes I do realize this. If you look at page one, my first post, it clearly states my intention; if you read some of the other threads like these (with old dates also), I state my point again.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by gorgeous_mistake

These threads are old. The dates are correct, for I searched and pulled them from the back.

Sera is right, it was mainly brought on by the 2 NEW posters who are experiencing problems such as these. And some other posters who disagree with pre-marital sex.

The attitude reminds me of going out and purchasing a home sight unseen for $5/m. Why put such a great investment at such odds, such as marriage, without having as much information/knowledge of each other prior to entering it? You can sell the house but not the spouse & kids.

[gorgeous_mistake]

A marriage which you might dread and regret your whole life. Why risk being unhappy, to make others happy?

The house metaphor works very well.

Ha can't sell the spouse? If you're having a sucky sex life, might want to!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

[sera300]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

Grrrrr about what? BTW: I always wanted to ask; do any of your neighbors know about your lifestyle? Or are you just the normal sort of people next door? I forgot to ask you. Oh yeah; you can Grrrr all you like, being the EEK, but remember it's what's in the heart which one sees... Sort of a dichotomy!