25 Years....Looking for more

[Rob]

Hi, I am new here and trying to find out if I am doing thing right or wrong. We are coming up to our 25 anniversary, and since the begining our sex life has been pretty much (what I think, is on her terms) on an average once a week. but about a month ago she bought some REAL sexy under clothes. She was very hot for about 2 weeks. We had sex about 6 times in that 2 week peroid and then nothing. she stopped wearing the sexy clothes and said she was always tired ( as she has said most of our marrage ) it is to a point now where I take Viagar to make each time we have sex better so she may want it more. I don't know what to do anymore.

[lilly2279]

maybe it was a self esteem issue with her? she wanted to feel sexy and make sure she could still turn you on.

Ask her.

[Brandye]

I thought I had responded but it disappeared. Oh, well.

I am guessing at your age from the 25 years of marriage. Women approaching menopause sometimes fo through much that puberty has to offer - only backwards. The hormones do vary wildly and can cause erratic sexual behaviour. This does seem to be in that pattern of a sudden resurgence in interest and then a sudden reversion. Many women end up more comfortable with sex after menopause because there is no pregnancy to worry about. Others think that life is over and clam up.

I know that hormone therapy is controversial but perhaps she could discuss the symptoms with her gyn. Perhaps even some herbal remedies may help. At the doctors recommendation.