Mindblowing from the start??

[puravida]

Those of you who've had long term relationships, (a year or more), did things click in the sex dept. off the bat? Or did you work towards the amazing stuff?(not talkin about chemistryThanks and good luck, damn it!

[jayda]

My husband and I have been together for 4 years, married for 2 1/2 and the sex is just now (in the past year) getting amazing.

I had difficulty reaching orgasm and we're both quite shy so communication was difficult. I find that as your comfort level with your partner increases so does the enjoyment of the sex.

As I said, we're both shy and can be too embarassed to tell each other things in the heat of the moment.....but we often on a Friday or Saturday night sit around after dinner and after the kids are in bed and drink a bottle of wine (or two) and talk about what we like and what we would like. We then spend the week finding ways to give each other those things.

But we are still learning and probably always will, this way the sex will just get better and better.

[puravida]

--Beautiful!!
--I'm a little worried because of the theory that sex is a barometer for the relationship. I know that's not true in some senses.. but basically, I'm falling for someone that loses his erection and everytime it happens he becomes less interested in sex.
--You've given me hope- Bless You!

[jayda]

If he's losing his erection every time he should see the doctor. There might be a physical issue that's causing it, or it could be emotional (preformance anxiety). But he should really go see the doctor.

[j56h]

When I met my wife, we dated for about 3 months before we had sex. At first I wasn,t sure she was the right girl for me, so I didn't want sex clouding the mind. Also, I wasn't sure that she was the type that liked to jump into bed right away, so I played it cool. By the time we finally had sex together we had already declared our love for each other based on our feelings outside of lust. The sex just seemed to cement our committment to each other. Was it mindblowing from that point on? Yes and no. The first couple of times we were together I had trouble getting it up and I was worried that she'd think I had a problem (in actuallity I was kind of sick those first 2 times and my erections don't last long when I'm sick). By the third time I was back to normal and the sex could be described as mind blowing. We've had a wonderful sexual relationship ever since and we ended up getting married about 14 months after our first sexual encounter. I've since discovered that she would have been game to begin sexual relations much earlier in our relationship, but she has said that she was glad we waited and she is very pleased with the quality of the sex. I think most of the guys she dated before me came on strong and bedded her early on in the relationship but then the relationships never worked out for very long. I wouldn't change a thing if I could do it over again. As far as difficulty in keeping an erection, make sure that he's not sick. I've found that a simple cold will have a big effect. Also it gets to you mentally if you are having trouble and that makes it worse. Explain to him that you are not putting pressure on him to perform. Offer that it is possible that he just hasn't been feeling well or he's been nervous and that there is a good possibility that the next time you try it he will have no trouble at all. Some positive encouragement may go a long way to improve the situation. Good Luck.