HELP! Lost sex drive.

[xjanedoex]

Any one have any good ideas, suggestions, tips, tricks etc. to help a girl get in the mood? I've been in a relationship for over 7 months now and the past 2-3 months, my sex drive has gone down the shit hole. Sex used to be good and although it was painful (it had been awhile since my last partner), I was still ready to give it a try. Now lately, I don't even want to be touched. I know it could be a variety of reasons... stress, emotional trauma, my birth control pill (which I'm changing soon anyway)... but I love my boyfriend tons and I know he's getting frustrated with me. He never stressed the issue and as soon as I say no, he lets it drop but the frustration is evident!!

Anyone had this problem before?? Any one have any good suggestions?? I'm talking hardcore no sex drive.. I need help!!

PLEASE AND THANK YOU!

[Kim930]

Jane Doe, I've had problems with my sex drive myself so I know where you're coming from. The first time it came up was with my first husband. He had been my 1st when I was almost 18 & we got married when I was 20 (big mistake). The problem there was plain & simple....we just weren't meant to be together. Once I got out of that relationship my sex drive was amazing again. Now I've been with my current boyfriend for about 3 1/2 years & we've had a couple of problems with the sex drive. One of the problems turned out to be my birth control pills. Got off of them & things got better. Another one of my problems is our living situation...unfortunately we live with his family right now while we wait for our home loan to come through. Stress is also a big factor. The funny thing is if you're stressing about the low sex drive, I'm sure it can make it worse. Try to not stress about it so much.

Now you said it was painful for you...has this always been the case? If so, I would see a doctor about that because it could be a medical condition.

I suggest that you & your boyfriend try other sexual activities that don't include intercourse. Massages, fondling, oral, etc. Maybe get some toys & try experimenting by yourself. Hope this helps!