Stuffing technique

[swish]

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum but hope you can help me out.

My partner of almost 8 years had an affair with an older (but better looking, better body, more experienced, probably better sexually competant) woman. We have moved on from this as I know there were faults (medical and otherwise) on my part. But he is a lot older than me and is on antidepressant medication due to post traumatic stress related to both war experiences and a recent operation which went terribly wrong. At the time of the affair we were living apart due to work commitments. The woman is a neighbour who I knew was after him as soon as I saw her but ........ I thought he would not sucuumb.

He has been very honest with me since I found out. He had become impotent due to medication and was so with her but she was able to stuff his penis inside her in an on-top position which caused him to get hard.

I haven't had children and my vagina is quite tight yet I have no problems with natural lubrication or with a hard penis. I would love to do the same thing with him but everything we have tried (including lots of artificial lubricant) had been unsuccessful. We have had intercourse since then but this technique has become a challenge and I want to be able to do this for him and for me. I cannot find any good instructions on the net or anywhere. The only instruction indicates lots of lube and that is not enough information as there is the possibility of harm to him and I want to avoid this as much as possible.

If you could give any advice I would appreciate it.

[Brandye]

He should start with his doctor. There are many anti-depressants and any of them can have this effect in some people. May be another one that will have less negative side effects. Erectile dysfunction drugs may also help. Do not change or add any drugs without discussing it with his doctor. The erectile dysfunction drugs get better over time. A little success boosts confidence and makes it more effective next time.

You are correct in stuffing from a straddling position. This allows him to relax and not use the energy or blood in other muscles. The key is now finding the exact position of your legs and hips that opens you the most. A slight angle change can have a big effect. Many of us are most receptive right after orgasm. If does you orally, or somehow, you will be looser for a few minutes.

A creative handjob or a few blowjobs can help. As he experiences the satisfaction, that too is a boost in his confidence. I have a sometimes partner who has nursed an invlid wife for years and had had no sexual experience for years. When I first seduced him, he could not get it up. A few little tricks with fingers and tonge and he is in good shape. He is actually old enough to be my father.

I have done stuffing but never with a lot of success. There is a tendency for falling out, especially as he begins to ejaculate. Your squeezing will actually push him out. No way to get a grip. Once in, do not move up and down. Keep your vulva pressed against him and work in little circles. That tends to keep him in there.

Nothing worng with a sex life based on oral and digital. Only you two can decide what is acceptable. But do have him talk to the doctor.

[swish]

Thanks Brandye,

That is the type of information I needed.