threesome with my husband and another girl

[remedialfairy3]

it recently was my husbands Idea to have a threesome with another girl. I'm very open to the idea, even tho I'm kinda scared about it, I've always wondered about it. At the same time, i dont really know much about them. What do you do in a threesome?what are some experiances you've had? Also, I've wondered how I'll feel about it afterwards.I'm also kind sacred that I wont be able to do it. Can anyone help me? thanks!

[oberon]

Hi Remedialfairy,

The rules for threesomes are pretty much the same no matter what the configuration. *

1. *MOST IMPORTANT: *You should be in a secure, trusting relationship. *If there are any doubts, then don't. *

2. *Lay down the ground rules with your partner before ever starting to look for a third.

3. *Make sure that any third you pick up, you both agree on *and make sure that they know the rules.

4. *Always play safe (use condoms).

If done right a threesome can be a lot of fun. *If *there are any doubts, however, it can break up a relationship. *

Take care.

[lilly2279]

Oberon has great advice (as always!!)

Also a good way to kind of "set it up" once you've found a girl is to be very casual in meeting with her. When you discuss the evening, just make it a 'what happens, happens' kind of thing. No pressure for anyone. Maybe the three of you go out to dinner, get comfortable with each other, etc. Maybe she just comes over and you all drink some wine and chill and get a feel for each other mentally. You might even try a game, like truth or dare or something fun that may require a bit of touching or kissing something similar, once people are a little more comfortable. (there are swinger's games available)

Above all, just make sure EVERYONE wants to participate. Don't do this because he wants to. Make sure you want to too. If you're curious and just want to try something different, that's great! Are you secure in your relationship? Are you afraid you'll become jealous after the situation? It is possible to cause a bit of mental stress after the threesome. Wondering if he liked her more, etc.. if your relationship is not strong.

And if you can't do it, there should be NO pressure. Make it known UP FRONT that if you feel weird and dont' want to do it, that you have the option to just say "well, this was fun, but I really just don't feel comfortable, let's not do this" and noone is going to get mad or be offended. It's perfectly normal to be a bit scared about it.

[Starbuck]

My advise is to not do it. I have a friend that instigated a 3 some with a female friend of hers a few years back. She thought it was just going to be a one time thing, but her husband had different ideas, and wanted to meet this woman on the side.
Well now few years later seems he still likes the idea and she *has just discovered him cheating with a woman. She blames herself for lighting the match -so to speak. Now she cant control the situation. All i'm saying is that they may start liking each other and cutting you out of it all ,and then youre left out in the cold. Mike

[lilly2279]

Good point starbuck. I've seen that happen, as well.