Oh no, dilemma time

[TheRoon]

Hi,

Have been going out with my girlfriend for nearly a year. We met at uni within the first week and have been going steady since. Have done the whole family thing, pretty much total commitment and I feel that she could be my first and only sexual partner.

I'm in a very good relationship but at the same time I'm not totally satisfied. My problem is, she's completely lacking in the breast department. In every other way she makes up for it, but it's still grates on me. We were speaking casually today about an article she read about botched jobs and she's mentioned several times although it would be nice, she'd never ever consider having them done. period. For me, i'm comfortable with that, it's her body and I will never ever guilt her into doing it for my gratification. If she wanted it herself, I would definitely support her. My problem is, I do feel that i'm missing out. I've said that I could spend my life with her but I think I will always think about what I'm missing. It doesn't help that wherever you go, you can't get away from it and it's really upsetting me. I'm happy with my girlfriend, but there's that underlying dis-satisfaction. If I ever discussed it with her I think that she would take it really badly despite the fact that in every other way it's not an issue. I also think it would make her ashamed of her body. At the moment we're totally comfortable and have a really good sex life but I know she would totally go into her shell. Basically what I'm trying to say, we're nigh on perfect in every way except on that one issue which is closed book and I know if I ever brought it up it could potentially ruin our relationship. I don't want to ever lose her but at the same time I can't lead my life like this. It's not fair on her and it's not fair on me.

Anyway, I probably sound like a complete arsehole, If I love her it shouldn't be an issue but I can't get away from it. Can anyone offer any advice?

[lilly2279]

I think you are focusing too much on her exterior. *If you have a healthy sex life, do NOT mess with it.

What suggestions are you hoping people will offer here? *Suggestions on how to get her to get implants? *Having a fling with a big breasted woman? *

When she "casually" mentioned the article on breast augmentation she may have been fishing for a reaction from you. *Maybe trying to gauge if you think she should get surgery. *Being a caring man, your response should have been "I don't know why women would want to get them, I think they should just be happy with what they were born with. *More than a mouthful is a waste in my opinion!"

Because breasts are basically fat. *Some women are thin with small breasts, some thin with large breasts, some women are chubby with big breasts, some are chubby with small breasts. *You're not dating or falling in love with her breasts. *You're not missing out on anything. *Don't jeapordize a good thing because of telivision's manipulations of the human mind. *

Love the body of the woman you already love.

Maybe she wishes you had a bigger penis and feels she might be missing out? *Or maybe she wishes you had a washboard tummy with mammoth shoulders and pecs? *how would you feel? *You're more than your body aren't you?

ha ha - on a side note it's funny that my icon is of a big breasted woman running. lol so take advice from a big breasted woman. I haven't actually had my big breasts cause a better orgasm or make sex better.

[oberon]

I'm not really sure I can help here. * I don't really understand being so focused on a particular body part. *I mean, I like hairy guys, but if I meet someone who is just perfect in every way but is smooth, I wouldn't let it bother me. *I think you are better off concentrating on what you have rather than what you don't. *

Hmm... and thinking about it, changing her breast size could change who she is. *If I loved that person, I wouldn't want to run the risk of changing them.

[lilly2279]

Aaaah. Oberon does bring up an excellent point. (as usual!) I never even thought of it, but it's true. If she had bigger breasts you may have a totally different girl.

My cousin got a breast enhancement and it really changed her personality. She got a lover, left her husband (who paid for the surgery) and is now remarried to a totally different guy. She's a young woman, under 30, so it's not like she went through some life change or something. She just got a lot more confidence with those boobs, I guess.

Still think you're missing out?

[tabooty]

As a small busted woman, I can tell you that they are right when they say breast implants would change a woman. I know it would change me tremendously. Are you sure there isn't another underlying issue? I can't imagine the size of a woman's breasts causing so much dissatisfaction in and of itself. It doesn't make them totally worthless, there's plenty of fun to be had with small boobs. Use your imagination.

[SexualDeficit]

Not to mention that boob enlargements can cut critical nerve structures that make what she currently has sensitive. After that it may not matter what size they are. If you're looking to give her any kind of stimulation you might as well be playing with balloons.

[yetagainsorrows]

LMAO @ Lilly!!! Big Boobie Icon!! I was thinking that before I read your line about noticing it was one!

Back to topic. I guess I would just be repeating what was said.

You leave her as she is and love her for who she is and over come this "image" in your mind, only to be happy for ever (if you want kids, her breasts will get larger then).

Or

Tell her and crush her so she leaves you for being shallow....worse yet she does get the surgery and dies....get's the surgery and leaves you in the dust....I could go on and on. Thankfully for you I won't.

Basically be happy with her for who God made her and what He gave her and if that is not possible for your mental issues, let her go, but I have a feeling you will regret it if you do.

[Skyby]

As a member of the itty bitty titty commitee, I must say that if my boy EVER complained about my boobs I'd tell him to deal with it or look else where, the're just boobs. My ex used to complain and all it acheived was to get me pissed off at him.

Dude seriously boobs aren't that big of a deal, the only thing that having small boobs has ever stopped me doing is being able to titty f**k and I coudn't care less and anyway if you boobs are small at least you dont have to worry about them being saggy, or have to wear a bra all the time.

[secretly_shy]

If my bf EVER spoke about any of my body parts in an unkind way he would be heading for a large slap! I love him for who HE is, not his body, and i trust he loves me for the same reasons.