BF Beat Up Old BF

[Kimmel]

My bf kicked my old bf's ass. I have very mixed feelings. My old bf said some disrespectful and inappropriate things to me one night. They were real bad things. You might imagine what they were. I told my new bf and told him i'm sick of it and i'd like it to stop. We saw him out at a bar, my bf confronted him, then pulled him outside. My bf got him pretty good. Old bf deserved it. It was nice to see my new bf fight for me. Now i feel kinda guilty, because my new bf took it a little too far. Wouldn't stop after old bf was down. He wasn;t hurt hospital bad, but he was fairly messed up. I think my new bf went a little too far. Is that a bad sign in my new bf? What should I do about it

[WallyLlama]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Kimmel @ July 27 2005,21:10)]It was nice to see my new bf fight for me... Is that a bad sign in my new bf? What should I do about it?

I know I've removed the context in quoting you... but I would say I'm more concerned that you found it "nice" that he fought for you than the fact he got "carried away."

It might seem chivalrous but that is not the way to solve problems. My suggestion is that you find other ways to see and feel new bf's love for you. Duels are out of fashion.

Ironically, I have only struck a guy (good friend) once in my entire life... years ago, and it was over a girl... she subtlely egged me on until I exploded. Ultimately I apologized to him and dumped her.

Something to think about...

[hipdude]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Kimmel @ July 27 2005,21:10)]My bf kicked my old bf's ass.
We saw him out at a bar, my bf confronted him, then pulled him outside. My bf got him pretty good. Old bf deserved it. It was nice to see my new bf fight for me. Now i feel kinda guilty, because my new bf took it a little too far. Wouldn't stop after old bf was down. He wasn;t hurt hospital bad, but he was fairly messed up. I think my new bf went a little too far. Is that a bad sign in my new bf? What should I do about it

We should remind ourselve that women don't like jerks. So you new bf belongs in jail maybe you also. Seems like a stick and stones situation not warrenting any violence. Someone in Kindergarden should know this.
I think I have some insight into the jerk thing. This is depressing

[secretly_shy]

Violence is never the answer.

It not something to be proud of.

[Roywyn]

I think that this may be a sign of future violence, what if you say something he didnt like, and he wanted to make sure you didnt do anything, or say anything like it again? remember, violence is bad, as is abuse. you should have reported it. and dont stand for either physical or emotionl abuse, if he shows any more sings and such, dont be silent, take your stand and leave him.

[~!`#1`!~™]

Fight's are result of testosterone. ( i cant spell -.- )
I've been in my fare share of fights and i can tell you, i've never solved anything, not even once out of those fights.

[Acid_Burn]

well i useed to be a violent person but no i dont think you have anything to worry about with guys in fights things tend to always get carried away but if he does start to get violent i would put a stop to the relationship right away no second chances

[Jm33]

Kimmel is the new bf the guy you cheated on your fiance with? and is the old bf your fiance? just wonderin so I can answer your questions.

[Kimmel]

The new bf is actually my fiance. I cheated on him but it was a one time mistake. The guy he beat up, my old bf, has nothing to do with the cheating episode.