what to do

[lover]

I'm new here, but have been reading the board for a while. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, I love him very much, but I find myself not wanting to have sex with him. It's not that my sex drive is gone because I manage to please myself very often. Any ideas?

[cindy18]

U guys just need to spice things up

[demonbuttercup]

Yea all couples get into that slump. I mean sometimes between busy lives its just easier to take 5-10 minutes to please yourself rather than setting aside a few hours to spend with your s/o.

[lilly2279]

Do you live with him?

Do you guys still do fun, recreational things together? Put some newness back into your relationship. Do something physical together, like going for a walk. Do something that re-connects your brains, not watching a movie or some other mindless task. You need to reconnect and learn to appreciate the person he is and he needs to do the same for you.

[Starbuck]

You said you please your self often. That might be the problem. Try holding off on your self and save it up for him. Give him straight talk of what turns you on and tell him you want him to do it. see what happens. good luck