sexual self esteem

[Skyby]

i need a bit of help, I have a really low sexual self esteem and it is starting to impact on my relationship, Ive been with my boy for nearly a year now but I just dont feel sexy, I love sex and I am willing to try new things, but when I get dressed up for him or whatever i feel like Im trying to be something Im not, hence the reason Im here, trying to get some tips on what i can do to improve.
My boy loves me and we are trying to work through it but has anyone got any idea's way's to help boost my confidence?

[demonbuttercup]

I know how you feel. My b/f likes it if I dress up in skirts, thigh highs, etc. But I just feel silly b/c I dont think I look good in them therefore I can't "act" sexy.
Not sure how to boost your confidence, I'm still working on that =\

[Skyby]

its not that i dont think I look good, okay that came out wrong, Im very happy and comfortable with my body so I have quite a high physical self esteem, but when it comes to sex, i just feel silly, like im trying to be something Im not.... i dont know if cos Im a bit of a tomboy and am used to being considered one of the boys as oppossed to sexy but I just feel like a dick....anyways, if you find the secret, let me know.... hehehehehe

[demonbuttercup]

Well you are already ahead of me in the physical self esteen dept. lol

[Tessie]

Your self-esteem problem comes from what you tell yourself and what your mind believes to be true. The only way to change that is to tell yourself differently. Try instead of looking in the mirror and saying "I look silly in this" say "I look incredibly sexy" Doesn't matter if you believe it or feel, say it anyway. In time you can change the perception of yourself.

[Rawbob]

I"m a bit confused. In your first post, you made it sound like it was an issue of you dressing up (i'im assuming you're taking about dresses, more feminine clothes, etc.).....but in your reply to Demonbuttercup you said:

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]when it comes to sex, i just feel silly, like im trying to be something Im not

What part of sex makes you feel silly and that you're compromising who u feel u are inside? Are yout talking about wearing lingere or sexy clothes for him?

Can you be a bit more specific on what your feeling, what you're doing/wearing when you feel this way?

[oberon]

I'm with Rawbob.... Huh?

You think you look sexy, but sex makes you feel silly?

Can you explain a bit further?

[Skyby]

Soory for the confusion guys... Im talking about lingere or role play or whatever. I just dont FEEL like a sexy person, Ive always been considered by all my mates as "one of the boys" and have never really had guys interested in me before because of it and I think that has alot to do with it. I am confident with my day to day self, like happy with the way i look and stuff but I am a very, you get what you see type of person when it comes to the bedroom I just feel like I dont know what Im doing and I feel silly when I try to act sexy.