Falling out of love

[cindy18]

ok, this is even hard to write too . My boyfriend and I been together for 8 months now. And past 3 months I started to take birth control pills . Now i dont know wheather it's the birth control pills or im just falling out of love. I feel that i cant see myself without my boyfriend, but i also feel that there is something missing. I've been so depressed that i even lost my sex drive. Btw my b/f never did anything wrong to make me feel like this, it just happened one day, and it's been goign for almost two weeks. I use to be sooo happy when i was around him, i still get happy when i see him, but that goes away...and i start thinking about that feeling . It hurts me to think that i might lose him. I know that i still love him, because i dont want to see him hurt. And it's also hurting me to image that i might lose him cuz i think i fell out of love .

[Skyby]

I had the same problem a few years ago with my ex, I got seriously depressed from taking the pill, and whne I stopped I got a bit better then realised that it was my relationship also that was getting me down so i got rid of him, but I recommend speaking to your doctor about changing what pill you are on, depression is a very common side effect of it, see what happens.

[demonbuttercup]

Yea I always thought it was ironic that one of the side effects of BC pills is a decrease in sexual appetite I guess you could say =\
I think I have kind of noticed this in my own personal life.

[neverdiplomatic]

I had the same problem with the pill as well. I find depression can really destroy a lot of aspects of one's life. My advice to you is to talk to your doctor and see if something can be done. Don't make any rash decisions regarding your relationship until you get the depression under control, kk?

[cindy18]

thank you guys. My biggest fear is to lose my boyfriend. I cant see myself with anyone else. And i also believe no other guy is more perfect then he is... and then i get this weird feelign hunting me. I just think im taking it out on my relationship, i really dotn want to lose him


thank you for ur help and advice

[The1stTriSexual]

Is this more of a problem of the pill causing depression, or the fireworks in a relationship fading (or maybe both)? I've been with my gf for a year this July and I feel a lot like you do..and it's not caused by any birth control pill (guy). I don't think the fireworks and butterflies in your stomach feeling can last forever, and I think thats whats happening. Shes my first g/f so I don't know how its suppose to feel like after a year, but I love her a lot and the thought of not being with her scares me as well.

[cindy18]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (The1stTriSexual @ June 24 2005,10:44)]Is this more of a problem of the pill causing depression, or the fireworks in a relationship fading (or maybe both)? *I've been with my gf for a year this July and I feel a lot like you do..and it's not caused by any birth control pill (guy). *I don't think the fireworks and butterflies in your stomach feeling can last forever, and I think thats whats happening. *Shes my first g/f so I don't know how its suppose to feel like after a year, but I love her a lot and the thought of not being with her scares me as well.

i know, it's hard. Everytime i think about it , i just wanna cry. But my mom told me that the spark isnt always goign to be there, relationship steps up to the next level, but now i feel like there is something missing. Im so depressed that i dont even have a sex drive.

[cindy18]

im just so lost and confused rite now, i really dont know what i want. I do want to be with him, but i dont think i feel the same. But then again that "beig in love" feeling isnt always forever ....i just want to cry all day

[secretly_shy]

dont feel down its natural to have doubts/mood swings but soon enough you will see again why you and your bf are together, and you will be glad you stuck it out

[Minks]

Yeah, i have been fealing the same way about my gf. I have been dateing her for 3 years. She has been my first everything. Just feal depressed and such. The fealings started about a year ago, found out she got drunk and raped but a "good friend" of mine, then after that the next 3 months she cheated on me 3 or 4 times with other guys. We managed to get it back together for a great 2 months or so.. but it has never been the same since. But I really dont know if that has anything to do with the situation at all, cause Its not a thought that comes to my mind often. Its sometimes just good to know other people are in the same situation. But I havent figured it out yet either..