Role Playing With

[Muck Peterson]

Hi there. I wanted to ask for advice. My wife turned me on in a way I found unusual. Here's a little background first. We were at a party Saturday night. A lot of our friends were their . . . husbands and wives, boy friends and girl friends. Good time was had by all. One of my single friends showed up with a new girl friend. Most people thought she was hot.
A few of the men, including myself, made a couple remarks about her in front of the wives. I have a very good relationship with my wife. We're very respectful of each other. Sometimes we joke around with each other. We both have good sense of humor. The things I said didn't cross the line and my wife chuckled at most of my remarks. But I was a little buzzed, so I probably got close to crossing the line.

Three days later she got me back. Our refridgerator wasn't working properly, so on Tuesday morning I called for a service appointment. It was scheduled for when I was at work. When I got home that night, I asked her how it went. She said it couldn't have gone better, "the fridge is fixed, it didn't cost us
anything (warranty) and I got serviced." I was pretty suprised. To cover my shock I said, "how was it." She got pretty graphic, *telling me what they did, *how good it was. Told me it was in our bed! Then the kicker . . . she told me I made the call for the appointment, so it was me who arranged it. *I trust my wife completely. It was clear she was joking. She was getting me back. It was a "see how you like it" type thing. Although, she took it farther than I did. I
laughed it off.

Now here's the wierd part . . . IT TURNED ME ON! I never heard my wife talk that way. She's very traditional. I don't understand why it turned me on. If she cheated on me I would be devastated. So I would not be turned on if she slept with another man. Did I envision myself as the repair man and someone else as the husband? Do I like role playing? Is this wierd that it turned me on? Why did it? Should I tell her it turned me on? Then we could act out the scenario? Is that wierd or is just some creative, harmless way to throw a wist into things. She didn't mean to turn me on. I don't want her to think I'm a wierdo. How would I phrase it if I told her it turned me on. Part of the problem is that I don't know why it turned me on. It shouldn't have, right? Do I have a peculiar desire to be cheated on? What are your opinions?

[lilly2279]

I think you just got turned on at the idea of a role play situation.

Maybe you should take the afternoon off of work, tell her to expect a "service call" and maybe take some clothes with you to work - like a tool belt, some jeans with holes, flannel shirt and work boots. Tell your boss you have a doctor's appt and go somewhere, change your clothes and go visit your wife. Pretend you're on a service call and see what happens. I bet you'll have a blast!

[Tessie]

Roleplaying with your wife in no way means either of you want or would cheat on each other. It's just a fun away to add some spice to your sex life.

I love to do roleplaying sometimes and just because its a particular turn on for me to have us pretending say there is another man there doesn't mean I would really want that. In fact I had that chance and said no. I found the roleplay was what I wanted.

Just have fun and go with it.

[Muck Peterson]

Thanks for the input. I appreciate the responses. I was beginning to feel like a nut. My wife tell me she was with someone else and I liked hearing it! It's nice to hear people don't think its that off. I like the "service call" idea. Will my wife think I'm a little whacked if I actually go ahead with it? She my think its odd to be turned on by such a thing. If I go ahead with this, should we pretend that there is a husband and he is at work? Any ideas about things I should say about a "pretend" husband? Like tell him I said hello. Just looking for more ideas

Another concern, is my wifes "service man" story was very detailed. It was like she could write a romance novel. Is that odd? How'd she come up with some of her ideas. That to me was a little shocking. Does she fantasize about being with others. Should I be concerned or was she just being playful.

[Tessie]

You are only limted by your imagination when you roleplay. The key is to do what turns you both on and it is ok to be outrageous and pretend things that you would never do for real.

You can pretend the husband is away or hiding in the closet watching you two as he masturbates. You can get a dildo and pretend you are both there with her. Really it's all up to you. If you're worried about her reaction you might want to bring up the subject of roleplay and actually discuss it first and then tell her to just be waiting for something. The anticaption of what and when should excite her too.

As to her having so many details in her fantasy, it's normal to me. I have a very active imagination and write erotic fiction that is totally made up in my mind.

Only you can answer the concerns you have. If you are worried about your wife then I sugest you talk to her. Only through honest communication can you both understand what is going on.

[Muck Peterson]

Sounds good. I may plan it with her. I'd like to go with the honest, respectful, caring, yet clueless husband at work. The only reason for the completely content wife strays is for a little action on the side. Why not? It's fantasy, right? What kind of things would turn on a cheating wife. Not that anyone here fits that description. But I still thought people on this site might have ideas in that regard.

[lilly2279]

Yeah, I would play along jokingly. like while you're going at it ask, 'so when does your husband get home from work?'

Maybe do some new and naughty things and ask her if her husband is that kinky. Maybe the playful banter will give you some insight on the kind of adventure she would really like to take in real life - like different positions or spankings or whatever.

I don't think she really wants to cheat, just trying to spice things up. I don't think she would think you odd at all for getting turned on by it. But don't feel bad telling her it turned you on and that maybe you'll surprise her tomorrow around 2ish for a fantasy role playing together? See how she likes it. I would let her know you're going to do it, though, so she can be "prepared' and not caulking the bathroom tub or something in a grubby t-shirt. lol

[Muck Peterson]

WOW! I tried the role playing scenario that I mentioned. Thanks for to input. I did exactly what was suggested. She loved it. I've been with her for five years . . . two married. It's great. But we were getting into the rut. This experiecne reminded me of the 'ole days. We were talking dirty, We were talking and laughting about 'the husband" the entire time. We also tried different things. It was terrific. thanks for the help

[lilly2279]

That is wonderful!!!! How fun!

Now I need to think up a fantasy for me and my man! I'm jealous! he he

I know. I'll start a thread of fantasy/ role playing scenarios. It'll give us all some kinky ideas!!!