Getting her back

[girl12]

Vaga as long as u realize your mistakes and she realizes hers, i would say you can make the decision. you seem to know what you plan to do, which is good, but maybe u should talk to her and make sure she is going to do the same for you and try to fix any mistakes she made. its more constructive that way.

-mariah

[G-Man]

Do NOT play the "emotionallly unavailable" game. In my experience, most women want to be pursued and won, not ignored. If you really love this girl, and it sounds like you do, you must pursue her in a very available fashion. If you don't, you risk her thinking you've moved on. That's ok if you aren't that deep into her, but you did say "Love." If you play games and it doesn't work, you'll second-guess your decision for a very long time.
Your argument for getting back with her was mostly logical reasoning. That's not going to work too often. Remember, she is ruled by emotion a lot more than you are. You don't need to convince her that this match makes sense. You just need to convince her that you are what she wants.
The trick is to pursue her without seeming too needy or unstable. I don't think that means playing games. My advice is to keep it simple in the beginning. Small, thoughtful gestures should be where you start. Eleven years of marriage have taught me that sometimes you get further by picking up a trinket for a dollar that you know she'd like than a fancy dinner or expensive gifts or shouting out your undying love from a rooftop. Sure, they want all that other stuff, too, but the small things show them that they have your full attention and are more likely to stir the emotional response you are seeking. You get rewarded most for remembering things that they like or want that they may have mentioned only once.
A woman wants to know that you're thinking about her when she's not there and paying attention to what she says when you are together. When she becomes aware that you do, she'll make her choice to either give you another shot, or drop the F-Bomb on you. At the very least you'll know you gave it your best effort.
Good luck.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

ORRRR she woulda taken you back if thats what she wanted...
why not just move along and be happy? and possibly find someone whos better fitted for you now.. and you for them...cause this is getting old.
there isnt more we can say other than..
1).. Get over it.
2).. Sit around and wait if it happens..and if it doesnt.. you realise you wasted.. a couple years on waiting when you coulda moved on.. anddddd been well not in the situation :P
MY theory.

[vagabondprince]

Maybe good points, and i'll listen someday...

The thing is, she apparently wants me in some form or she wouldn't invite me to watch a movie and end up cuddling and falling asleep with me. and sitting around waiting's not going to get anything done. the point of this post is to figure out if there's something active i can do somehow. i've sat around long enough. On another note, i'm not ignoring other prospects as much as i used to, so i may move on sometime, but it'd take a lot for me to be able to.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

i dont think you get it.. lol there is nothing you can do... if she wanted you.. she'd be with you if shes cuddling, and not doing anything about it.. FROM A GIRLS VIEW>. shes using you.... cause i can bet women on here including my self have that guy they can just fal lback on.. when they got nothing better out there.. to just.. have someone to give hugs.. really.. shes using you..
I hope that someday is soon, because once you figure out you will be like "shit i was an idiot why didnt i do this sooner" you will be happer in the end once you do it.. .it had taken me7 months or more to get ober my ex.. and well...i was alot happier once i did.. i realised i was wasting my time, becuase if he wanted to get back together he would have.. no matter what i did it wouldnt change his mind, itried the waiting, i tried the active.. serious just MOVE ALONG.. and words of advice.. the wh ole CUDDLING movie thing i'd stop if i were you... because well.. it does nothing but make you more confused and blah blah blah and makes you USABLE.