dont know if she's cheating

[BeEasyBaby05]

Last week my girlfriend of two years and some friends were celebrating my birthday so we went to the bar for some drinks. Her and me friend's wife decide that they were going to the bar acrossed the street. I told her that we would be over after the game of pool. When we went over I seen her between to guys. The first gut was n't too clodse to her so i didn't mind but the guy behind her was close enough to if he got a bonner she would feel. She says that they are like brothers and if she wanted himshe could have along time ago. But my thinking is if they were like brothers i would have me them a long time ago. I need some help figuring if i should let her go or how to deal with these feelings. please help....

[iamawesum69420]

Well if she says there's nothing going on and you don't have any more evidence but this then you should trust her. If you can't trust her then you're just going to drive yourself crazy thinking she's with another man all the time. My boyfriend and I both have a lot of friends of the opposite sex. We trust each other a lot and don't get jealous. If I started getting jealous everytime he was close to another girl I'd drive myself crazy.

[BeEasyBaby05]

But the thing is I have been known for getting played and having my emotions played with. Now I know I'm not ugly and I have had women come up to me with offers but i don't take them serious and i try not to put myself in a position to where she thinks i'm cheating

[iamawesum69420]

Well I know what you mean. I've been there. And sometimes I find myself thinking what if he's out with another girl. But then I remind myself he loves me, he's not like all those other guys, and he wouldn't do that to me.

[WallyLlama]

I suppose it's gracious that you monitor your actions so she won't think you're cheating, but that's your choice unless she's asked you to do it.

The ultimate reality is she controls her thoughts as you control yours.

She stood close to a guy (or he stood close to her).

She told you (in so many words) that she could have "had" him a long time ago if she wanted - she didn't and doesn't.

And now you wonder if you should dump her?

I'd suggest you get a grip and get some perspective. If what she did is making you feel insecure (after a two year relationship!) maybe you should dump her and let her find someone who is secure enough to trust her.

Frankly, if you continue to suspect simple actions like this, you'll drive her off anyway.