why do i feel this way?!

[SammyMouse]

my boyfriend and i have got back together after a separation of bout 3 months. during this time he kissed another girl, and swapped numbers with her. we live about 45 mins apart and im worried that im going to lose him because she wont stop texting him,. she only texts when shes had a drink. we went out last night and his phone beeped and he sed it was a mate but i saw her name on the message, and asked him why he'd lied. he said he didnt wanna worry be that she wouldnt leave him alone. i trust him completely, but im worried that hes gonna be tempted by her and leave me and i really dont want that. hes told me not to worry and not to think about it coz he doesnt. but i cant help worrying. i know hes told her to get lost coz i saw him txt back saying hes back with me and to leave him alone and she replied with ok babe. why she callin him babe? im really worried though. what can i do to get her out of my head!?

[uncreativename]

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Quote[/b] (SammyMouse @ Mar. 06 2005,12:48)]my boyfriend and i have got back together after a separation of bout 3 months. during this time he kissed another girl, and swapped numbers with her. we live about 45 mins apart and im worried that im going to lose him because she wont stop texting him,. she only texts when shes had a drink. we went out last night and his phone beeped and he sed it was a mate but i saw her name on the message, and asked him why he'd lied. he said he didnt wanna worry be that she wouldnt leave him alone. i trust him completely, but im worried that hes gonna be tempted by her and leave me and i really dont want that. hes told me not to worry and not to think about it coz he doesnt. but i cant help worrying. i know hes told her to get lost coz i saw him txt back saying hes back with me and to leave him alone and she replied with ok babe. why she callin him babe? im really worried though. what can i do to get her out of my head!?

hey,
i know how you feel.. i got really jealous when i found out my guy was friends with this other girl who was really like him..she has a bf, but i was really paranoid about the whole friendship...this kind of behaviour is normal in any relationship, even in marriage! it's good you've confronted your guy about her and it seems like he doesn't fancy her.

"she only texts when shes had a drink" - does this mean she doesn't actually FANCY him properly? maybe she just thinks he's a fun guy? although they may have kissed during your absence (when you were on break/separation)this doesn't mean much if he is back with you again! think about it..the fact you're back together shows he wants YOU not this other girl.

"i trust him completely, but im worried that hes gonna be tempted by her and leave me and i really dont want that" - if you DO trust him completely, why do you worry he'll go off with her? remember he's told you he doesn't like her like that. you've confronted him and he's told you there's nothing between them. you've done as much as you can really. you have to TRY and be rational. if you keep being paranoid around your guy, this may push him away. learn to accept it and move on. if your relationship's going well and you like each other, be happy and try and focus on the good things you have.

if you're still worried, you could confront the girl herself...don't make a big deal of it. just say you'd like her to stop calling him all the time and calling him "babe" as you don't feel comfortable with it..she has to realise that he's in a relationship. maybe your guy should just keep his phone off when he's out or not reply to her texts.

remember, just be cool and try not to stress, if you find this girl getting to you again just remember it's nothing to be worried about. be positive and focus on the relationship you have.

hope this helps!

uncreativename