he takes too long

[siobhan]

I am just curious to know if anyone has THIS problem. My husband takes too long to cum, I know a lot of woman experience the opposite, but I just don't want to be there for over an hour, even when it is good, I get bored and annoyed. Could this be a form of ED? It wasn't like this before. I find myself avoiding him so I don't have to be there, also we have a toddler, and I can't leave him alone for long periods of time, I just won't do it.

Are there "tricks" to help make him do it faster, I am ready to pull my hair out!!!

[finewine]

Many things can affect cumming.
age, health, stress etc..
Make sure there isn't anything physically wrong by getting him to have a check-up at the doctor.
Then check for mental stress, toddlers can be very stressful. Add an unhappy wife and stress at work, and you have the makings for a very limp evening.
Talk openly about the fears and frustrations it is causing you both and reassure each other that your love for each other will overcome those fears...

and if it takes so long for him to cum then incorporate that into the all day foreplay and a longer more relaxed time of foreplay when you are together.
Creativity can make him cum faster if all else is ok in the sense that even though it may take longer... it is actually more fun because the time spent together is more sensual....

and the toddler? *well you get creative and work around the toddler. Put that toddler to bed early...ship the toddler off to aunts and uncles or grandparents who want to see the little tyke. Your husband should always be first in your family relationships.

here are some things you can do for all day:

Call him at work in the morning and say, Hi, baby, it's me. I just finished making the bed and damn, my tits got so hard thinking about how good you are too me.. I'm wearing my red cardigan that buttons down. The top two buttons and the bottom button are undone. *My ring finger and middle finger are carressing up and down my exposed cleavage just thinking about you....Can I come to the office today and have you for lunch?... Send him a picture email... I'll let your imagination take care of that one...
Send him a card to the office with the scent of your perfume on it and tell him you have oils and candlelight waiting for his weary body when he gets home.
Just let your creativity run wild here...

Then get someone to babysit that toddler and call your husband up on the phone and with your best sexy seductive voice, that says be my lover and you won't take no for an answer, invite him to meet you at a nice hotel one evening bringing just his birthday suit to wear. Send him a "key" to the door.
and make it hot steamy and romantic night for him away from the house and toddler, thinking only of his pleasure and not the toddler's or yours...
and make the foreplay all night long, teasing him, loving him, playing with him, with everything that you see here on the boards...and anything else you love doing when he use to cum faster...

I know this was long... sorrry.. but I hope it helps...

[siobhan]

Thanks finewine.

These are some good ideas.

Has anyone brought up the subject of circumcision and sensitivity? I didn't see anything anywhere. I thought maybe more sensitivity could be related...???

[finewine]

There are quite a few posts on circumcision.
Search/keyword is circumcision/ posts and topics/open forums/from beginning to new to get all the threads on circumcision.

[WallyLlama]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (siobhan @ Feb. 27 2005,10:54)]...I just don't want to be there for over an hour, even when it is good, I get bored and annoyed... also we have a toddler, and I can't leave him alone for long periods of time, I just won't do it.

I apologize for selectively quoting... I did it to create (a perhaps unfair) context.

I think one of the greatest mistakes a parent (mother or father) can make is to put their child(ren) before their spouse. It doesn't have to be a mutually exclusive thing anyway.

"Hurry up and get it over with" is an attitude that will not help your partner cum any faster.

I'm quite certain that circumcision is not the answer.

[demonbuttercup]

check out this topic.
Some people here refer to it as retarded ejaculation.
Hope this helps, he's not the only one.

[Jracer]

This from a mans point of view at least mine. After an almost 17 year absence from sex Ive become somewhat active again outside and away from my own hand. My problem is Im used to my hand and nothing else works quite the same. Im the only circumcised male in my family and have noticed a drop in sensitivity now at age 35 and to be honest I think Ive put myself into a position of "other things are more important than sex" attitude. I had sex last week and knowing we were both "clean of limb" she had just her cap in and we were bareback, the sensation was there and she was very good with the muscles however it took me a loooong time to arrive, she on the other hand had several orgasms during this time and brought me close but no cigar. Aside from being about the same girl I knew in high school she still has her personality. charm and good looks not to mention the honesty is still there. Might propose in the future but I don't know how long my equipment is going to tolerate this foreign stimulation. We've tried everything, slow fast you name it and its pretty much the same for me however my ejaculation volume is tripled so future children wont be an issue on my part.
So to be frank it might be an issue of the equipment slowing down over time or it could be he has alot on his mind. You have a child now so we know everything is working but it might be a bit slow to work. It could also be that he has alot on his mind and can't focus on the pleasure before him and I wont rule out the decrease in sensitivity if he is circumcised.

Just some thoughts from someone who has re-entered his sexuality after 17 years of being a devoted single parent at age 16 1/2

JR