somewhat lost of interrest..

[guitarle]

Hi everyone,

I've been dating my g/f for approximatelly 1.5 years now and our relationship is very strong. When we first started becomming sexually active with one another, the oral sex was absolutelly fantastic. It was moreover handjobs then blowjobs witch i had no problem with because either way they felt good. Then gradually I started returning the favor when she was comfortable with herself. We started having sex for just over a year now and it's been great ever since.

Here's my little dilema. These past couple months seem to be strictly sex. I absolutelly enjoy going down on my g/f and I love to receive as well. I would look at it like a 50 50 receive and return type of thing. Latelly it's like she doesn't even want to get the oven ready to bake the bread. Basically she'll just kiss me, I'll take off some of her clothing then i'll do my own clothing then we'll hit it off right away. I mean it's not so bad but i must continue..

One thing that kinda not so much upsets me but rather kinda dissapoints me is that during her period, she'll be all touchy touchy.. grab my manhood firmly to get me arroused but then that's it. .. [ one good example is how I slept over her house and she had me going quite well then she fell asleep!!!] OR she's all talk in front of her friends like ohhh I take care of him all the time etc.. but i'm thinking to myself well it's not completelly true but i do not mention it because well, it makes her happy to think that she can "be better then her other girlfriends" i suppose..

I have noticed that I devote quite alot more time to taking care of myself because I need to releive myself then she would even seem interrested in knowing how I'm doing. Mainly during that 7 day span.

Tonight is the middle of her period and I drove down to see my g/f and watch a movie. Nothing really happened so, I made a broad comment by my words moreso jokingly.. "lets go play with the one eyed snake? ehh!"
I went to the washroom quickly to pee then returned and she was sleeping. I woke her up and she's just didn't care even if i was at presence so i went home.

How do I go abouts to maybe bringing this up to my g/f?
I'm not asking her to dip into my pants every time i see her but rather to be able to restore some of the "oral lust" we used to have when things started moving?
Do girls naturally lose interrest in a guy's manhood?

Thanks to anyone who can help me

[thetease13]

Well, I'm not really sure I can be much of help since after about a year and a half, any chance we get, we still play touchy feely and go at it.

But I will say that it is fairly common in a lot of relationships, dating or marriage, that people lose the "sex spark" after a while. Sometimes it's just one partner and sometimes it's both. But it happens.

And now I'll leave the rest of this topic to someone else since it's not something I know much about.

[iamawesum69420]

Well I'm in the same boat as tease. This isn't really something I know much about. I'm in a rather new relationship (almost 4 months now ) so I'm not really sure. The only advice I can give it to just talk to her. As I've said before communication is key. Let her know how you feel. Maybe talk to her and try something new to spice up the relationship. It seems like you guys have just hit a rut and need some excitement to bring back that spark. Wake her up one morning or in the middle of the night with oral. I don't know any girl that can resist that. Make it the oral performance of a lifetime. That just might be the trick to get her back into foreplay.

[yetagainsorrows]

All you can be sure of is communication. Talk to her about it openly and as adults. Ask her if she got bored or if she isn't into it as much. I love to give head, so it's hard for me to see why she isn't now, but was into it.

Best thing to do is ask, not beat around the bush....

[LittleFury]

after year an a half, things do change, doesn't mean it's bad, just enw wears out. And here is a thing, for instance, my bf and I were togehter for year and a half, and in the beggining we saw each other once a week, were really hot for eachother, all the stuff, now...he has to work overtime, classes I was taking were killing me, grad applications made me lose sleep at ngiht, and during my period, unless he had tylenol for me on a silver platter, he better stay the hell away. Take into account those things. As you stay with your partner longer, things like that get in a way and new wears off. BUt do try to talk to her, but let her talk as well, and let her be able to talk to her.

[shadowcat]

Just try talk to her about it, but dont like cause a fight about it. And be understanding when shes on her period

[Honeynoats]

I have been with the same woman for 10 years. If you let it, anything gets old. I am wondering though, when she has her period, what pleasuer is she receiving? Are you willing to have sex with her? Not only does sex during this time of discomfort actually help ease her pain, it is kind of fun too. No worry about lubrication.

I will be honest with everyone, we do go through periods of "same old, Same Old" Realize this and work at it. Remember pratice pratice pratice! Try anythign new, it is too much try something else, if not incorporate it into your lives.

[secretly_shy]

Ive been with my man for a year and a half now, and things have indeed changed- at the very start we were always at it, ripping each others clothes off and constantly touching.

Now we have changed slightly in that if we stay the night together sometimes we do indeed just go to sleep, and get up to naughtiness in the morning instead of having to do it that night! but the closness we have now is brilliant, and i often fall asleep in his arms while watching tv and he's stroking my hair. we havent lost anything- we've just added new stuff as well and sometimes is tricky fitting everything in!

[Mouta]

Thats a good way of putting it. I find me and my girlfriend like that sometimes too.