keeping your relationship fun

[-kythulhu-]

i read in a magazine article recently, ways that couple keep their relationships fun and upbeat, and it just got me curious as to what everone here does to keep theirs that way.

like me and my guy. our nicknames for each other aren't common and are just plain silly.

[vagabondprince]

as the pattern has been going between my girlfriend and i for the past year, what we do to keep up the excitement is cause some sort of drama that upsets the other one, then we have a big discussion that leads to a breakup. then we realize we can't live without each other and get back together. but that's not something i recommend anyone do. right now we're not together, and we will be apart for a while still i think

[WallyLlama]

This will sound like it's going off topic... I'm promise to bring it full circle.

You know, Vag, your pattern is more common than you realize. I know a lot of people who seem to have this intense need for drama... whether it's in their relationships, their health, their jobs... it really can be an intense emotional need wherein the drama gets created if it doesn't exist.

One might speculate at great length as to the causes and reasons, but I compare it to an addiction to excitement and high emotion. Life is like a computer game? Hmmm.

What keeps a relationship fun? Laughter! Silly nicknames... practical jokes... being comfortable enough to make fun of each other's habits... And the simple realization that life (and relationships) do not have to be constantly intense to be good.

[vagabondprince]

i was just being sarcastic. the last thing we do it for is excitement

[finewine]

for fun? let's see...in one sentence to sum it up.
I do the unexpected. Let your imagination take you wherever you want to go with that.

[Alspals69]

Rather worryingly i am another whose relationships ups and downs generated a lot of excitement (or is it stress?).

What I normally do for a little entertainment is to have a little adventure, like deliberately get a little lost when we are out in the car. Maybe take a walk down the disused railway at 3am (not for the faint hearted).

Anything that is different. I think it is too easy to stick to what you are used too. When things get a bit out of control its something to talk about and can bring you togeather.

[-kythulhu-]

my boyfriend and i tend to do the same thing too; getting to the point of near break-up.

maybe couples do it so they can see what they mean to the other? or to test their relationship/other. i can't exactly get out what i'm trying to say, but hopefully ya'll get me.

but i agree, laughter is definitely what keeps a relationship fun, that and doing things out of the norm.

[Alspals69]

I think i know what your saying.

I hate saying stuff sometimes because i occasionaly read it back and it just sounds like I am on drugs or something, lol... but here goes with one of my half-baked theories.

I think men and women are fundementally differant and its probably not a good idea to assunme otherwise.

I tend to think that... erm in general... men tend to want a quiet life, women are a bit more inclined to show their emotions.

If a lady is bringing arguments on it can actually be just a sign that she cares. I do sometimes feel that if a guy doesn't get involved in arguments, by reverse logic, it can apear that he doesn't care.

Does that make any kind of sense whatsoever?

[-kythulhu-]

it makes complete sense. my boyfriend and i had an argument the other day and he said that he only brings things up because he cares. and it's true. if he didn't care, then there'd be no point to bring it up.

but i think it's backwards in my relationship, but only because there's some things that he's never had to deal with before in any of his past relationships.

[Alspals69]

I guess your nick-names are a trade secret?

I am SO nosey, lol