Fantasize of other women during sex

[G0nz0]

A lot of the times when I have sex with my girlfriend, I think about other women to help me cum faster. *It's not that I don't find my girlfriend attractive, I just want to cum faster so she feels happy because she satisfied me. *Our relationship is great, going on almost a year, but is this a sign for something? *I can see us getting married and I always want to ask her, but we're just too young (I'm 17 she's 19). *Its obvious to me that she will never break up with me unless something drastic happens, I just feel unsure sometimes when I say 'I love you'. *This is the first serious relationship for the both of us and I feel like I can't be sure I truly love her until I've been with someone else. *Under no circumstances do I want to hurt her, I could never... she's the sweetest girl I have ever met and I can't ever see us breaking up just because of what it would do to her and how bad I would feel. *I know for sure I have an extreme care and love for her but is this the real thing?

[cajdi2004]

do you ever try fantasizing about her while you are doing it? i've done both and they both work. Then again, I am usually trying to think of other things so I won't cum so fast (baseball stats, guitar scales, work, really unattractive people..........).

[G0nz0]

yes, when we're having more passionate sex, I have no problem cumming to her. Maybe the problem lies when we have sex when my parents are home... hmm... (when they're asleep). as for trying hard not to cum, I've never had a problem with that, I can hold it back no problem. I've been able to have sex with her for over an hour before cumming.

[Brandye]

1. We ALL fantasize during sex - often about other people.

2. At 17, no reason to feel badly about being unsure when you express love. Probably is not.

[finewine]

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Quote[/b] (G0nz0 @ Jan. 11 2005,12:15)]

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Quote[/b] ]but is this a sign for something?

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Quote[/b] ]This is the first serious relationship for the both of us and I feel like I can't be sure I truly love her until I've been with someone else.

Young love can be wonderful. I have friends who have been married now for 28 years and they were highschool sweethearts... no one else.

Are you thinking you will miss out on something just staying with her? All things can be explored with one person.

Are you worried that fantasy of another woman means you do not love her enough to commit to her?
Fantasy is natural... maybe what you are needing is not another partner but just some more spice with the one you have so create that spice and enjoy.
Lots of posts here to give you ideas on spicing things up.