wife wanting a threesome

[clueless1]

my wife of seven years now wants to have sex with other men, and me. before we started to date i got to watch her have sex with my friend ( they were bf &gf) not just once but twice. the next morning after the second time she offered me head while her bf showered. about a month later we were dating. after about a year she started to get into using a toy dildo. we got married and everthing is great. she asked me about three years ago if i wanted her to have sex with another guy. in my head i was saying yes but to make her feel like a lady i said no. she still uses her dildos like every other month or so. also she was always into the kinda wild side of sex. she liked me showing her of and stuff. now all she wants is to lay on her back and have slow "lovemaking" all the time. the dildos she does by her self.

i just need some info on what to say to her. the way she said it was, i thought it was a joke sort of. this is how she said it.
as we were having sex she said " oo i would love to another guy in my p***y and you in my mouth, and when your ready i would let both of you c*m on my face.

i need a answer please thanks.

[Tessie]

Well the only way to do what you are wanting is to sit her down and talk about it. Having a threesome is a lifestyle that shouldn't be rushed into but talked and talked about. It is one thing to have it as a fantasy in your bedroom and a whole other thing to actually watch your wife have sex with another man. Make sure you really want that first.

Also what is up with her using the dildos alone? You should be using it on her and doing some fun roleplaying in the bedroom. Trust me you won't regret it.

[oberon]

Hi Clueless,

"Wife wants a threesome." What do YOU want? If only one partner in a relationship wants a threesome, it's going to put strain on the relationship. You can't "make" yourself enjoy something you don't really want to do.

You also need to establish some very strict ground rules. As in, "We only do this when mutually agreeable." There is also an issue of trust. If there is ANY lack of trust in a relationship, engaging in threesomes will bring it out. You must be very sure of each other first.

Good luck and take care.

[Starbuck]

This is not good stuff in my view. Too easy for her to like some one else and leave you out in the cold. Inviting a divorce if you ask me.
Try this one. get her in the doggie position and be in front of her letting her do oral on you as you reach under her and f-ck her with a good size dildo. This is kind of like having 2 guys with out actually doing it.

[Skyby]

Thats a bit of a negative reply starbuck. yeah it could be a fear but not a deffinate, it really is an issue of trust as oberon said.
Clueless try just alking to her about it like ask her if she was serious or just expressing fantasy. maybe try substituting the dildo for another guy? from the sounds of thing she used ot be pretty wild, bring that back.