Time between relationships?

[Arodine]

I wanted to get an idea of what kind of time periods people on this forum have had between relationships.

The reason I ask this is because I broke up wih my last g/f about 5 mths ago (after a 2yr relationship) and although I've been on a handful of dates since then, I've not found a girl that has given me same kind of spark that I had with my last g/f.

Obviously I realise it varies from person to person and with different personal circumstances, but I'm starting to feel like I'm abnormal because I've not managed to meet someone and that this reflects on me as a person. I think I'm a pretty good looking guy with a huge amount to offer, but feel that I must be doing something really wrong.

I'm a student and feel that this is an ideal time for me to be meeting other women but it just doesn't seem to be happening. I also find it quite soul destroying to walk down the street or to be in clubs and see so many people in the kinds of relationships I want to have and with the kind of girls that I want to be with. I'm not suggesting that being in a relationship validates me as a person but feel that something is seriously amiss somewhere along the line.

Any help would be greatly appreciated

[monie]

Ok, I was in a long term relationship once. It lasted 9 months. Afterwards, I was single for about 4 and a half months. Then I met someone that I clicked with so well. We had this deep bond, one that I cant even explain. Well, we were together for only about 2 months. That ended last month. And i havent found anyone else, and Im not looking anytime soon. I have no clue when i will find someone again, and Im not thinking about it.

And yes, it is hard to find someone you click with, Just be patient and it will come along.

[vagabondprince]

along the same lines, since things recently ended w/ my gf as well, i've been wondering how long is a guy generally "on the rebound"? the girl i'm talking to now wants to remain just friends for now because she doesn't want to be a "rebound girlfriend".

[WallyLlama]

I think the caution is not so much about time as it is about purpose.

Some people are in love with the idea of being in love.

It becomes so important to have a partner that who the partner is becomes secondary. That's one of the reasons people get concerned about "rebound" relationships.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

thats kinda what i was thinkin wally, but you summed it up wayyy better :P

that and pfft, i duno why think about it? if it feels right in the heart, just do it

[Don_One]

i'd always heard that, for any serious relationship, it takes half the time you were together to get over it. so if you were together for 9 months, then taking four and a half months to get over it is about right.
maybe if you've been in a relationship for 2 years and you're looking for another serious commitment only 5 months later, you're not fully prepared, subconsciously.



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[mjv154]

It does depend on the person, but for me I've found that there are stages. 1 month, 3 months, 6, 9 and then a year. Each has it's own hurdles and gains.
I broke up with my g/f of 4 years about 10 months ago. I've dated about 5 girls since then, but none have been anything worth sacraficing anything for.
The trick is not to get caught up in what can or will be, but what you got going on right now. You will meet someone that had that spark, and they will feel it too. Just give it time, and enjoy the ride while your on it.
Every girl you date dosen't have to end up being your soul mate. You learn a lot from these small, short incounters. Things that help you in future relationships.
So.......don't worry about the time, just be happy now, and things will happen.