Fight With My Wife

[oberon]

Ah, the old "foot in mouth" disease.

I think Wally and Lily, both, have good ideas. It really depends on how reasonable/forgiving your wife wants to be.

Sometimes a simple "I'm sorry. I didn't mean anything bad by what I said." will work. Maybe followed by, "What I really meant to say was that you are more beautiful- not only than the other two women- but ANY other woman."

Flowers are also nice (her favorite kind).

Good luck.

[underpressure]

A quick update.

It just so happened that this situation took place right before my wifes yearly physical, and she talked to the doctor about things she could do to keep her weight down.

I'm not the slimmest guy around either 5'11" 185 (not all in the right areas though), so I told her I would try to engage in a lifestyle change with her.

We've always ate fairly healthy but we're going to try cut down on having 2nd's and also cut back on junk food and sweets.

I'm going to have a tough time cutting out chips and salsa but she's going to have a tough time cutting out desserts too so I guess its a sacrifice we can both make.

She's going to start excersising (aerobic workout at home) 3 times a week...but shes on her own with that one...I don't have any tights that would fit

Thanks for all the help from everyone who responded.

[oberon]

Hmm... a suggestion? Put on the tights that don't fit and do the excerise in front of a mirror.

It might help with that "chips and salsa problem".

[WallyLlama]

Congratulations! What a great story!

I can't resist pointing out: turning this around was a matter of finding a point of agreement (we need healthy lifestyles) and working from there...

I'm not pointing it out to say "look how smart I am." It's a fundamental and basic concept of managing conflict and negotiating and it just plain works. We would do well to use it often in our relationships!

Now you'll both feel better about yourselves when you go on the trip!

Everybody wins.

[Rawbob]

I just read teh string and damn if the advice i was going to give is how it worked out! hahaha

I was going to say you should offer to work WITH her to have you BOTH work in getting in better shape, eat better, excercise, etc.

But...looks like you and the Doc. beat me to it!

NOW, just stick to it!