Trying to get her back

[camman]

OK well i havent been online for a whiel and if anyone had read other posts of mine they'll know that i had a girlfriend.
Anyway thats not to important.

OK so here it goes me and my girlfriend were toghter for 1 1/2 years . We recently broke up with each other. Stupid reasons , we were young and stupid ... well we still are i guess.lol.
Ok so the quistion . I want her back , i need her back. So she has waterfront property , and i want her to know how much i want to be with her. I am planing to swim from one side of the lake to her house . the trip took me about 35 mins in the summer.
But it is now winter and its about 30 degrees were she lives. I am getting info that hypothermia can come into effect from 15 mins to an hour in 30 degree weather.( in water) But i really need to show her how much i need to be there.
I guess i am askin is this just crazy and if so do u have any other kind of ideas. I know its kinda dangerious but thats why i think is such a great idea.

OH yea my most impotant ? if u were her ( we seriously have no bad feelings twords each other) do u think it would be nice or crepy?

[WallyLlama]

Don't do it. It won't be creepy or nice. It will be dangerous.

I'm glad you're getting info on hypothermia. It's a killer and it will happen very quickly, even less than 15 minutes in the temps you describe.

And the odds are good you won't even realize it's happening.

Write her a letter, send her flowers, put an ad in the local paper... there are plenty of ways to show your love that will leave you living.

[monie]

Yeah, there are plenty of ways to show her you still care without risking your life! Think of some other things, like writinig a heartfelt letter.

I have a question for you, camman. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but didn't you have a post in the past about your gf being pregnant? If I'm right, I'm just wondering what happened with that. If you'd rather not share I'd understand. But that does play a crucial part in how to go about trying to get her back.

[demonbuttercup]

Yeah, Id skip that idea. Seems romantic, in the summer maybe, but in the winter, I would just think you were nuts.
Besides, I wouldn't want a b/f who is missing fingers, toes, other important apendages
because they froze off in the lake lol.
Maybe find someone with a little boat or something.
What are you gonna do once you swim all that way?? You'll show up at her house drenched, freezing your ass off? Then what? Gotta think ahead!

[vagabondprince]

you wouldn't make it thirty feet out in the water at 30 degrees. in fact, once you got into the water and realized how cold it is you'd probably just get back out and reconsider. if you did jump in, you wouldn't be able to move very fast at all. the cold water makes your muscles contract rather uncontrollably, and you'd be swimming at a slow, limping pace. Unless you're a Navy SEAL with a wetsuit on, i'd say what you're considering is suicide (even a Navy SEAL couldn't make it through that cold water without wetsuit. They have to go through lots of conditioning just to handle 50 and 60 degree water. that kind of water is cold enough).

Maybe instead of swimming, if you could get your hands on some kind of canoe, and as you're paddling up give her a call and tell her to come outside to the water, she's got a surprise waiting for her. [Disclaimer: even canoing has a certain level of risk in that condition. should you tip your boat in the middle of the lake, you'll have a hell of a time trying to save yourself and fight the cold at the same time. considering that, i'd stick with flowers or something like that].

[camman]

well u guys were right . IT was so fuckin cold. lol
But i tryed lol . only for like 3 mins. I stared to relize i couldnt make it. I really would have done it but i know i would have died. I couldnt have mad eit for another 32 min. ( probably longer cuse of the cold) lol and actually it snowed that day , but i still tryed.
But I did walk to her house one night at like 3 in the morning and droped of a letter . I did it cuse she lives in the woods and 2 miels from my house i walked in pitch black in 30 degree weather for her to prove how much i loved her.( mind u i didnt wake her up i just told her next day )
The following day i showed up at her house we talked for hours .
I dont actually know how it turned out .
She says shes seeing someone ...
But i told her hoiw much i missed her and how much i loved her . She was saying how it was to hard for her to keep talkin about it .
I told her i just want her to be happy
Eather with me or with mr.x . We were talkin about other things for hours. We were having fun.
Not really a quistion here but i wanted to tell u guys so no one thought i died or somthing . Tanxs alot for the replies .
I dont know what will happen all i know is that i am gonna try to prove to her how much i love her.
And no she was never pregnant .

[Arodine]

My feeling is that you did the right thing by talking to her and telling her how you feel. Whilst it must be pretty upsetting to hear about her with another guy I think its always worth bearing in mind that she won't have with that guy what she had with you. In regard to the best way to get her back...

I think the best thing to do now that you've told her how you feel is actually just to leave it for a while and play it cool. The reason I say that is because humans have a funny way of wanting what they can't have but ultimately not wanting it when they do have it. Certainly that may be the case now for both of you. My experience has told me that the worst thing to do is to go on at someone and back them into a corner. Often with relationships it needs time for both parties to realise how they felt and put some perspective on the situation. To get the maximum effect the person needs to realise it for themself rather than be told. I know this may sound a bit like game playing but it certainly doesn't have to be that way especially since you don't have any bad feelings between you.

Personally I would play it very cool, stay in contact with her from time to time don't mention your relationship or getting back together but most importantly keep things positive ie let her know that you are getting on with your life and that you're not just letting your life go to pot because she isn't there. She already knows you want her to be a part of it but trying to persuade her will only take you backwards.

By taking that relaxed approach it gives you an opportunity to do things for yourself and look to the future instead of getting hung up on her and everything in the past. If she values your relationship and see's something positive and attractive to come back to it can be a very strong influence.

Best of luck