please help!!!

[tt4u]

i need some opinions here! i just got married 3 weeks ago. and this past weekend found out that my husband is spending money on his credit card for 1-800 sex numbers. is this cheating? what do i do?

[demonbuttercup]

I responded in your other post.
Its up to you what you think is cheating and you should talk to him about it.

[vagabondprince]

without talking to him openly you really can't tell if it's a problem or not. i'd consider phone sex similar to pornography; it's just a fulfillment of a mental fantasy that can be used as a tool to "get off" on.

[Rawbob]

Well....he had to know that sinec you see his bills, that the phone sex number would show up!

Instead of confronting him, come pu with a way of turning it into a chance to build your sex life.

Rent a porno with a phone sex theme...or talk dirty to him during the day.

Leave him a recording on his voice mail of you masturbating..be creative..he's going to ask you, "Honey, what got into you?" and you'll say "Well, i saw the 900 phone sex number u were calling, and at first i was mad, but then decided it was hot, and wanted to do my own version for you because i love you, i love the feeling of you inside me, and i want us to be hot and erotic"

Spend some time investing IN your sexual side of your marriage instead of just jumping to conclutions and accusations! He's not cheating - YET!

[lilly2279]

I second Rawbob's advice. Have phone sex with your man could be a whole new fun thing to try! Maybe call him when he's driving home from work? Won't he be excited when he gets home?

No, he's not cheating. But I would talk to him about it and find out why he feels the need and if you can help him out.