Zero sex drive

[msluvlie76]

Hello
I am having a serious issue with my sexual life. I have been in a 6 year relationship with a man. I love him and I want to continue to be with him. I feel that our relationship is in danger of ending because I have absolutely NO sex drive at all.This is probably different than anything anyone has ever heard of because there is no cause to this that I can think of. When I do have sex, its REAL good. He completely goes out of his way to please me, so its not the sex in general that isnt good. We have tried to spice up our sex life in hopes that it would make me want to have sex more often, but that didnt work.
Also, I am not stressed out, or angry or over tired, so it isnt that either.
I just simply have no desire to have sex with him...or anyone else. I don't care if I ever have sex again.
This is so bad that I find myself (like maybe once or twice a month) having sex with him just because I feel guilty that I havent done it, but i think "Okay, this should keep him quiet for at least 2 weeks" I know that this is horrible, and I wish that I could be a nympho, believe me. I don't know what to do. Can someone please help me?

[oberon]

Hi Msluvlie76 and welcome,

I don't know much about this subject, personally(lol), but here's a website I pulled up:

Lack of Sex Drive

Scroll down to the section on women. *I don't know if any of this might apply to you, but it looks like it's worth looking over. *I hope it helps.

Take care. *

[WallyLlama]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (msluvlie76 @ Sep. 17 2004,16:45)]This is so bad that I find myself (like maybe once or twice a month) having sex with him just because I feel guilty that I havent done it, but i think "Okay, this should keep him quiet for at least 2 weeks"

There is, in my opinion, a difference between having a lack of sex drive and dreading it. The quote above (and I know it's out of context) suggests you're closer to dreading it. If the sex is good, why dread it?

I'd start with a trip to the Doc. Could be hormonal, etc. (There have been threads/posts suggesting this on the board.)

You can be sure there is a cause. Start by eliminating a physical possibility.

You haven't said how long it's been... it's possible you're in a slump. Maybe the planets are aligned wrong or something...

I'm not trying to make light of the problem, really. But one thing that concerns me is your fear that the relationship is in danger of ending because of your lack of sex drive. That suggests the relationship is not as strong and healthy as you've described it. If the physical gets elminated, I think you're going to have to take a cold hard look at the relationship.