I need help with 3 men. Well 2.

[july14]

Ok this is the situation, I have a boyfriend but he is not the least of my problems. I have my relationship with him under control. * *

My situation started in May when *I met "Tony". I had just started a new job and he helped me out alot my first week. As the weeks passed "Tony" and became really good friends. We shared and helped solve each others problems, we had a lot in common. But anyways to make a long story short we hooked up 5 or 6 went to the movies and what not. At the end of Aug he found a better job at a different facility. We still talk on occasion but we haven't hooked up.

Now another guy at my job who liked me back in May has been flirting with me and buying me lunch. I was attracted to him before Tony and I became friends. I want to talk to the other guy. My problem is the two of them know each other. On Thursdays some of the guys at my job go bowling and "Tony" still joins them.

What should I do?
(they both know that I'm in a relationship)

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (july14 @ Sep. 02 2004,15:28)]Ok this is the situation, I have a boyfriend but he is not the least of my problems. I have my relationship with him under control. * *

geez...where to start.
nice that you have your b/f "under control"
i would first tell your b/f he's not your b/f anymore before you decide on which of the other 2 guys you want to "hook up w/"

[WallyLlama]

You don't suppose Tony "recommended" you to the new guy, do you?

Hmmmm....

I don't understand the question, I guess.

[Rawbob]

Ok..um..when you say you "hooked up" 5 or 6 times..does that mean you had sex with him?

Aside from that very imporant question, I think you should break it off with your boyfriend. Clearly you want to "have your cake and eat it too." Thats not fair to him, and belive it or not, that's not fair to you either.

Clearly you're enjoying the flirtatious lifestyle - so do just that - enjoy it. But, you need to be fair to your so-called boyfriend and break it off with him. YOu're setting him up for alot of hurt and anger if you're going to continue meeting guys.