More meaningful sex

[Wez_1501]

Me and my partner have been together for 3 years and are very happy. We have a 2 year old daughter together, who we love more than anything in the world but,naturally, she keeps us busy and obviously does not allow for much quality sex time! So when the rare chance comes to have sex, it is (always great) but very often very raw and purely physical, and I would like to make it more meaningful, and show my partner how much I love and care about her (while still having amazing, hot sex!lol) This may sound like a bizaare problem to have, but it's been bugging me for months.
Any tips on how to make sex more romantic/meaningful?

[secretly_shy]

Why not give the child to grandma for a night (grandparents love grandkids, hehe) and have an evening for just the 2 of u, have a candlelit meal, remember the wonderful times, share a bath, cover the bed in rose petals and tell her how amazing she is...

[Wez_1501]

thanks, but what i really am looking for is tips and things during sex. Sorry, i phrased my question badly.

[demonbuttercup]

well the big thing is that romance takes TIME and thats something you said you don't have much of.
i know if i haven't been w/ my boyfriend in awhile, the sex tends to be more physical.
i guess the best tip would be just to take things slow.
if she tries to attack you, make sure she calms down.
tease her a lot. make her wait lol.
if she's not down w/ that, then just go back to the raw sex.

[Tessie]

Yes, slow it down. Make foreplay last longer, with lots of teasing each other. Look into each others eyes and feel each others passion.

I also think its very important not to just do the samething all the time. Mix it up, branch out and explore things you have never tried before. Pick a new room, the shower or whatever. Buy a great new sex toy and have fun. *

Sex should be a continuation of learning and exporing with each other. Whatever you do don't use the fact that you have a child to neglect your time alone together. Yes adjustments must be made but I hear that excuse to often and frankly just don't buy it. Wear that kid out so she will sleep the night. *

[WallyLlama]

I'd add "Don't undervalue raw lust." There's something very meaningful (and romantic) about being that hot for each other...

If you want to slow things down... sensual massages might work... commit to giving each other maximum pleasure, even if it means "taking turns." Games can work... "let's see how long we can...?"

Romance isn't just about flowers and candles... it's about sharing, whether it's passion, laughter... whatever.

[Janet-NJ]

Hi Wez ...

Just signed up and read your post ... *My husband & I have been married 6-1/2 yrs. Like you - we have to schedule our alone time - but unlike you we are both willing to explore our sexual relationship (which only gets better with each passing year) ...

Now to answer your original question ... until I was married I had never had an orgasm either. Sure I felt 'good' , but didn't know there was more!!

So one day my husband said 'Just lay there and enjoy' .. (which was not easy for me. I always felt I had to respond) .. As I became more stimulated it became more difficult to lie still, but he assured me ... and after a while ... WOW !!!) The feeling was incredible!!! The heat and warmth that ran through my body ... I was limp. And of course he was thrilled.

BOY!! Now I knew what I had been missing. *In the beginning I (like many woman) could achieve orgasm only through clitoral stimulation. *However, the first time I achieved it vaginally ... it rocked my body.

There are varying degrees to my orgasm ... from a trickle to an all out gusher, but the results are the same - I am limp and numb and thoroughly content.

My suggestion is to simply tell your husband you want to know what an orgasm feels like. He may be shocked/hurt to know you have never had one. *But unless you tell him, he won't know. *I also used to have a hard time taking. I thought I had to move and groan and respond. Yet I never expected my husband to moan and groan everytime I touched him - his body told me how he was feeling. Once I got passed this and he told me he enjoyed pleasuring me as much as I him ... I began relaxing and enjoying more.

Just as a side note - we also have 'fun' and experiment. *We shop for Sex toys together. *We talk about what makes us feel good. *And 'yes' there are days we never leave the house and simply enjoy each other. *

Good Luck ...