Getting it back

[mjv154]

A few months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. *We split because she wanted to be more independent and we both wanted to know what we each truely wanted out of life.

*The break was clean, and we are friends, as I imagine we will always be. *I want to eventually try and start something back up with her, as we were always very good together, and were very happy and in love. *

She isn't ready to get back together, and to be honest I want more time to pass before I am ready too. *We exchange emails, and the occational phone call (they last hours), we have even met as friends to go see a new museum exhibit. *It was very nice, and we both enjoyed it.

I am trying to take things very slow, and realize that we may not actually ever get back together, but I just want to know if I'm going about this in a good way? *Taking things slowing, building a good friendship again, and if after some time we both decide to resume a romantic relationship, then we will give it a try.

Does this sound good? *What are your thoughts or experiances? *I can elaberate on details of events if need be.

[WallyLlama]

Yes, things sound good.

I'd only add one caution. Sometimes a relationship can be comfortable - almost a habit, really - and feel good without necessarily being "right."

Since you both ended the relationship for independence and self-discovery, you both need to focus on that and ask yourselves whether or not you've satisfied those needs... or have you ended up back together because you get along well, etc.

There's nothing wrong with what you're doing, certainly, just be sure you're both not cheating yourselves, so to speak.

[mjv154]

Thanks, sounds good.