spice up sex life

[Jacky234]

I have a question..
my bf and I have been dating for a yr..we are both 21..and our sex is pretty much alwasy the same..a couple different positions..usually on the couch.bed or car.....but my bf still cums reallly realyl fast..maybe after 1 or 2 mins..so my question is...'is there a reason to make it more excting..like try more postions..more places...suprise him etc..if he cums after 1 min anyways..and therefore doesnt seem to be bored..'

[TexasGuy]

Well, you definitely don't have to worry that he doesn't find what you're doing immensely enjoyable! It's a much better problem to have than the alternative. But having said that, and as a guy who used to cum sooner than I would have liked, I will just say a few things:

* it improves over time (assuming you stay together)
* you can try squeezing his cock very tightly, or slowing down the pace, when you think he's nearing his climax... which is often succesful in prolonging it
* some positions do not provide as much stimulation to his penis and so, yes, he will last longer if you use those
* wearing a condom is another solution that can help
* don't believe the myth that has been propogated by the media and porn that it's supposed to last for hours if it's any good... comparing notes with many of our couple friends who are very satisfied, that's just not true.

I hope that helps a little! Happy experimenting...

[Tessie]

TexasGuy is right in that it is a myth that intercourse should last for hours. Who wants someone pounding away for that long anyway. I would think there was a problem if my guy did that.

Its all about the foreplay. That can last for as long as you like and the things you can do are endless.

I think younger people see the different positions and such and think thats all there is to it. But really in my experience you can do the same few main positions and have a different level of enjoyment every time. They key is to move into a deeper level of intimacy with each other. There is alot of flesh on the human body to explore and have fun with.

[Rawbob]

I agree with Tessie.......i think we all agree taht wer'e MUCh better at sex now, then when we first started having sex.

Since you are a couple, YOU have the right to assume some control in your sex life. The next time he wants to just JUMP ON, smile..tell him to roll on his back.....tie a handkerchief over his eyes..and tell him to RELAX and ENJOY!

Most "newer" guys are all about the "cumshot"......so just know that its going to take time for him to understand that the feeing of being WITH you and IN YOU is just as important as the cum he wants to shoot in you! (sorry for being graphic, but i think it makes my point ahahah)

So, next time he wants to fool around, don't just give in..YOU inititate some new things to do!

[Marc]

If he goes so fast the first time, why not just put on a new condom and keep going? If he feels like he only has one chance, when you are having sex, then he'll always worry about cumming fast. Just make sure to tell him you don't care and that you enjoy it no matter what.