Me and my Girlfriend

[Mouta]

Ok. Theres kind of a 4 person situation going on here.

My friend invited his gf over and i invited mine over to his house and their relationship was kind of weakening due to his gf cheating and she came stoned and then everything got f-ed up. So then I drove my gf and another friend over to their house and I said i'd be back in a few. The 3 of us said we were smoking together that night. Then when I got back they already did...Then they were all stoned and i was sitting there all...not. Then all night she seemed like she wasnt having fun...Cuz she was tierd and stuff, or whatever. Should I tell her we either do that together or don't do it. Cuz it makes everything weird when 1 of the two in a relationship is. Some help here would be GREATLY appreciated. We both love each other alot and sometimes were just a little bit distant when were together..and i wanna know how to fix that.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

well the whole drug thing, thats probally one factor, but if she wants to smoke she will, with or with out you.. and when you put that kinda "limits" on it.. like by saying "we smoke together or not at all" she might not like that idea..

jamie

[Rawbob]

I'm with LADY on this one. It's kinda tough to figure out ANY kind of emotional reality when the parties are stoned.

Best to hold off talking about relationship issues when you are under the influence of any drug or alchohol.

[Bewitching]

I have been in this boat before and let me tell you now, it's a rough ride.

The drugs DEFINATELY have a lot to do with your situation. My boyfriend and i were extremely heavy weed smokers and as much as we loved each other and could talk about our problems, more problems always arose. I can always relate to the 'feeling distant' part when you're together also.

Weed affects who you are as a person. *It starts off affecting you socially, which then leads to many problems with friends, relationships, work and family and nobody seems to 'understand' you the way you want them to.

Cut a long story short (because i could point out many negatives weed does to you as a person), if you want your relationship to work with this fine woman you've found, quit the weed all together.

It's the only thing that concluded problems in our relationship and there isn't a doubt in my mind that it is doing the same to the both of you. Since quitting,things have been so much better in life and you tend to smile a lot more!

Do what i did - if you KNOW you'll end up doing it at some stage, kick back to SPECIAL OCCASIONS ONLY, like birthdays, xmas, new years, easter etc. and that's it. *And you'll find the weed a lot more effective when you do it, too, it will not take you much to get stoned and you'll be saving SO MUCH MONEY!! *Honestly, that's the best way of going about things. And promise yourself never to do it 'just because it's the weekend'. Once you start your pattern (in any circumstance), you never wanna break it.

Talk to your girl about this and see what comprimise you come up with. I can see where you're coming from as far as "we do it together or not at all" but i dont necessarily agree with it from ALL angles. *Comprimise, and let her know you are doing it to help the both of you within yourselves and your relationship.

If you want any more info, please feel free to personal message me or just continue the posting.These are breif descriptions of everything and i can honestly say that i have been through it ALL. *I really hope i have been of some help as i do not want you to suffer the same way my boyfriend and i did. It hurts and weed isn't worth destroying love.

I hope it all turns out well for you!