I think he's cheating

[Dana Boudreaux]

I'm not positive but I think he is cheating and we are supposed to get married in a few months.I'm freaking out here. Help me please. Dana Boudreaux

[Dan Tha Man]

Sweetie if you think he is being a pig then you need to say goodbye.Dont marry the slimeball whatever you do.You dont want to end up divorced.Although you could and get his house and money

[Darling Rani]

Take it from me honey. I've been there and done that and it's a nightmare. I had doubts before we got married and found out after that he had been cheating the whole time.It was awful. I had the marriage annulled. Be careful Dana

[LittleFury]

YOu might want to make sure though, don't just jump to conclusions. And also, you might want to rethink getting married at this point if this is happening. Good luck

[Nurse Naddy]

Hey Dana,

Sorry to hear you are going through this! I have been in a similar situation and I know how horrible it feels to even fathom the idea with someone you love.

Honestly, be careful, put off the wedding if you have to. Have you confronted him about it?

[LittleFury]

Hmmm, maybe this can help. WHile I was engaged, my godmother was conserned for me, She thoguht I was too young and she didn't really like the guy. One day, she and I made a deal that she would stop bugging me about me being engaged if I promised her that if I felt anything wierd or not right, I wouldn't go through with the wedding. I think that helped me a lot.
Think about it. Maybe if it feels weird and not right, pospone or cancel the wedding. Best of luck to you though.

[Darling Rani]

Yeah see, everyone is basically saying the same thing.I would make sure it was true first and then say goodbye if it is.

[oberon]

Sounds to me like a trust issue. *I don't know if this is just "freaking out"-as you put it- or if there is a legitimate worry, but either way it sounds like you need to slow down wedding plans.

I, too, was in a relationship where I found myself not trusting the other person- to the point of checking his car hood to see if it was warm when he was suppose to have been home all evening( it was!). *When it gets to that point, it's best just to get out.

You can talk to him about it, but he can also lie. *Only you can decide if you believe him. *But I know if I had ANY doubts I certainly wouldn't go through with something as serious as marriage.

**P.S.-mine actually was cheating, as I found out from over-hearing a phone call. *I promised myself I would NEVER put myself in that position again.

BEST OF LUCK-no matter what happens.

[BabyDi]

After watching my mother and father's relationship deteriorate....my mother gave me a bit of advice to which I swore I would adhere. That advice was: If you ever have any doubts (doubts about something serious like this) do not marry him. It won't be different when you're married. In fact, those traits are more likely to be even worse as you grow older.
Good luck, and i'm sorry...

[2deprived]

Take a little advise from someone who wishes they didn't go through with the wedding.

If you are not sure you can trust him now, it won't get any better later! You deserve better! Run. Run fast and don't turn back.

If I had it to do all over again, I would have NEVER married my husband! But I have a strong belief about marriage in that I have made my bed and now I must lie in it! I think things would have to get really bad for me to leave him. Don't trap yourself like I did. You will be so happy and relieved after a little time has passed. I wish you the best!