long term relationship problem? your advice

[Drifter]

Hay guys iam 20 and have been with my girfriend for 3 years i absolutley love your to death. i think iam a good and understanding boyfriend my girlfriend goes to school and has afew male friends i dont mind this at all as we are very communicative and have a great understanding of each other. so get to the point yea we both have different sex friends we have been totally loyal to each other

now last week we were talking and my g/f spoke to me about afew things on her mind basically she was saying she was curious to kiss some one. not any particular person just curiosity we had a good conversation and expressed each others views.

anwayz cut the long story short she went out for lunch with a friend of hers she didnt really know him for that long. the guy has been having relationship troubles . anwayz cut long story short he tried to kiss her once she backed away

then he tried again later and kissed her for so 30 seconds or watever my g/f told me about this after our 3 year aniverysary which was a week later. basically she told me tonight. I dont and iam not going to brake up with her as i feel i love her too much and we have a really great relationship. she expressed how sorry she is

but even since tonight things are hard i just feel frozen to her like if she hugs me kises me it just dosnt feel like anything i feel hurt and i feel my trust for her is broken. we had a long conversation. iam not the kinda guy to get angry and start yelling iam the quite listener so we had a good talk but its still going to be hard and i dont want to forgive her and let it go that quickly.

ohh and i forgot to mention that she is my first sexual partner and same with her. i dont feel any erge to see pick up other girlz. but yea also wanted to ask wat are your views abit first couple relationships do they work???

basically i just wanted any advice from you people dont know who else to talk to thanks alot

[LittleFury]

It will take a lot of time and work to work this thing out. You guys are young and you've been together for a long time, so it's not that unusual to wonder what it would be like to kiss someone else. Doesn't mean that she doesn't love you or wants to cheat on you. Sometimes, if a guy kisses you though, it can be hard to back out no matter how much you try. However, 30 sec does seem kind of long. There are couples who got married to their first sweetheart, so it's nothing unusual. But in this case, it will take lots of time, patience and work to resolve this. Good luck

[Seena]

When you're in the first long-term relationship I'm sure both of you can't help but thinking what it would be like to kiss someone else or to do this or that with another person.

I've always enjoyed long-term a lot more due to the fact of the closeness between partners. The fact is: you two have been together for three years. There's a reason for that. People always make mistakes; so people should learn to forgive as well.

Nothing comes easy. From relationships to playing a sport to getting good grades, everything takes work. So both of you should just be patient with each other, trust each other, and work at it and all will be fine.

[Drifter]

thanks a lot guys we are working through this and i appreciate the feedback

that guy ended up rinigin my girfriend asking all sorts of questions about our relationship are we ok etc etc he cares etc etc she basically told him to piss off. he is a very sly guy and one of those people who would brake up a relationship

i actually rang him and had a good talk with him. nothing bad a good talk with him. i got abit upset after i got of the phone with him he is a very sly basically a bastard who his aim was to try to get me angry to get to my girfriend. I just cant belive there are people like this in this world. i basically just told him to get on with his live and i made it clear that friendship is not an option

but yea fingers crossed he wont ring again as neaither of us want him to call..

iam happy the fact that my girfriend had a talk to me and told me how misleading he was and how and how some one could do somthing like that. iam happy the fact that she has learned a great deal about this mistake in the fact that the amount of trust she puts on people has changed

its hard to work through but its going good. the most important thing to me is that she reliaised she made a huge mistake and learnt her lession from it

appreciate all the help guys any one else had people like this try to do things to there relationship

iam not the kinda guy who gets angry and starts throughing punches iam preety thick skined i guess but i stand my ground when need be =)

Thanks alot =)