Finding Time For Us

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Im curious.. me and my boyfriend haven't had sex in a few weeks.. like almost 3.. that isnt normal for us.. but.. its weird, we just can't seem to find time for me and him time.. "us" time. Should we just wait till we can find the time to just spend together? or.. just go with the flow.. im assuming go with the flow.. but do any of you guys go through this???

Jamie

[wonderboy]

Don't worry.
The other day me and my g/f had for the first time in 3 months! It's no big problem, in fact, it just makes it feel better when you next do it!!

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

you think? so just go with the flow... its weird, we just haven't had much time to .. cuddle that much or anything... and its ha rd :P you miss that person so much when you can't do those intimit things... cause.. yea, they just help... im sure you know what imean.. and Oooo EVEN BETTER? *GRIN* lol thank you very much for your reply!!

Jamie

[LittleFury]

I like going with the flow. Sometimes we do however set something up, like having an evening just to ourselves. But mostly going with the flow.

[vette1963]

If Time is a problem ~ MAKE TIME. even if it's just a quickie

[thetease13]

but you see, making time is much easier said than done...or maybe that's just the case for me.

me and my guy have tried to get together numerous times since december...and something always comes up at the last minute and stops us.

[archer]

3 weeks is definietly a hell of a lot of a long time in my eyes. i wouldnt go wif the flow, i mean if u really wanted it, and ur b/f was just as committed it shouldnt become an issue, love making is apart of a relationship just like talking or spending time together without one of these ingredients i think the relationship will start to fail (but of course there is exceptions and times where u cant fulfill every part of hte relationship but you should at least try and make the most of it wen u have the time)
i'd turn it into a date...write it down on the calendar and both of you can work towards it and make sure nothing gets in the way of it. you definetly have to be strict on yourself too and make it a priority. i mean this is the person you love, if u dont have time for him/her wat hope is there for hte future and the meaning of love? you have to be committed and make sure it happens....its bout committment
good luck

[Rawbob]

I'm kinda split on this one! I have been in my relationship for 7 years. Like most LTR's there are ebbs and flows in our sex lives too. We have gone 3 weeks without sex, and we share the same bed. Life, stress, kids, etc can all be a real "libido killer."

But i'm always assured in my mind that it will pass, and we'll make up for lost time...and we do. It always seems once the drama or stress has passed, then we f*** like teenagers - like every day/once a day for 2 or 3 weeks....then settle back into a 10 -15 times a month frequency.

I WILL however agree with ARCHER. If this is the FIRST time you 2 have experienced this kind of "lack of sex" for such a long time, then you SHOULD talk about it!

How long have u 2 been together? Do you live togethr as well?
Do you both masturbate when u cant have sex?

TALK ABOUT IT! I agree with archer, MAKE A DATE. Rent a hotel room for 50 bucks, get some candles, draw a bath, get some wine..and just let go for a few hours!

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

well it will beeeee *counts* 8months on.. the 7th.. of feb. feels like forever though.. hehee or years.. we practically live together, out of a week maybe 2 days.. we don't see eachother.. the rest.. we stay at eachothers house.. or whatever... Hmm.. if.. we don't have sex for like maybe 3 weeks yea.. who knows.. its more when... its buggin us.. that way.. but we're content with everything else, just we can't have sex... for some reason or another.. we do.. im sure... Thats how we are too, if we havent for awhile we make up for it. lol

[elephantears14]

I wouldn't be alerted. Every long term relationship goes through this, but i know the first time can be scarey you start to question yourself....is he/she still interested, is there someone else? But if it bothers you so much chances are it bothers your partner too. i agree with others talk about and do something about it. My husband and i have a very active sex life but from time to time we will go a week or 3 without sex but it is due to long work hours we both have job were we are at work 10 hrs a day and away from home nearly 12 hrs on the days we work, we just have to grab what little time you can even if it's tired lazy sex atleast you are feeling and being with each other only if it is a few minutes before you drift off to sleep. But talk about it will set your mind at ease.