How much time can you spend together

[sexykitty]

I got married two months ago, but just had our big ceremony and reception last Saturday. *We went to Florida for our honeymoon and just got back Sunday. *Before this, the most time we had spent alone together (straight) was three days. *While we were on our honeymoon (7 nights), we started fighting on day 4. *It lasted a day and a half. *We have been living together for 8 months, yet we both work, so weekends are the most time we are together. *Should I just assume that we aren't cut out to be together for this much time and start planning short vacations, or was it a fluke thing? *We are very much in love, yet both wanted to kill the other.

If you are in a relationship, how much time can you spend together before you start getting on eachother's nerves?

[?wiseman?]

hey Sexykitty, congrats on your nuptuals. Could be a couple things going on here, but nothing to worry about in any of the scenarios I can think of. Here are a few ideas:

1. You've had a lot going on these past few months with lots of excitement and stress. You've probably been on an adrenaline rush and now you're both crashing back down. This can cause some stress leading up to a blowout.

2. Being married doesn't mean that one doesn't need some space. If the two of you have spent the time non-stop together, you probably both got thrown off of certain routines which can cause some friction.

3. You may have been rushing around trying to do this and that for the past few months and haven't taken the time to actually relax. Next time you go on a longer vacation, take half a day each and go get a massage, facial, body scrub or whatever. This provides some "me" time, but also puts you in a more relaxed mode.

4. Periodic short vacations are nice for a quick refresher, but aren't usually long enough to relieve the stress of work, parenthood, etc. A longer vacation at least once a year does wonders.

5. Like everything else on this board, your situation is going to vary greatly from all the other Tom, Dick and Mary's on the board. From your prior posts, it's clear you have a good relationship with your husband, so sit down and talk about what happened and see if you guys can figure out what caused the fireworks.

Congrats again, and best of luck to you both.

[Analist74]

My wife and I have been together for 4 and a half years, I love her to death, and am as much in love with her as I was when we dated. But sometimes I don't like her very much, and it's at those times when I need to get awa from her, fishing, playing video games, going out for a beer with the guys, whatever. The point is we give eachother space. A few years ago we went to Cancun Mexico for a week, on the second day we were at eachothers throats. What we did was found activities that we could do together, but separate. Like renting jet skis, we each rented one for ourselves, we went snorkeling, we were together, but doing our own things, we found that there are many activities we could do together, but not necessarily with eachother, perhaps this could work for you too.