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[Junocozmos]

Immaturity or Standards??
Having been in a realtionship for the past seven yrs and married to him for three, I figured I had pretty much figured it out by now.
My husband often calls me immature when it comes to love and sex and our relationship in general. I'm still calling it having standards.
Is questioning strange behavior such as a huge decline in sexuality and wondering eyes, immature?
Requesting explanations for constant apathy?
Asking for affection, wanting compliments, expressing the need to be treated more like a woman than a piece of living room furniture immature?
Or is that what you call having stadards.
Needing perspective to elleviate confusion.

[Tjdude]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Junocozmos @ June 16 2003,08:01)]Is questioning strange behavior such as a huge decline in sexuality and wondering eyes, immature?

Requesting explanations for constant apathy?

Asking for affection, wanting compliments, expressing the need to be treated more like a woman than a piece of living room furniture immature?

No
No
No
I realy don't know about those standars of you, they seem to be ok, but i'm not a married guy, so maybe you could get a better advice from people on the board who are married. But i agree with you, those are good question that need a good explanation from your hubby.

[ItalStall]

It is normal for the heat and fire of a new relationship to decrease in intensity over time, but that doesn't mean it should become extinguished!

It is also not abnormal to "window-shop" a little, although not to the point that it becomes disrespectful to you. And he should be prepared for you to not walk around with your eyes shut either!

If you are seeking compliments and re-assurance every 5 minutes then that might become tiresome, but it is certainly not immature to expect some demonstration of love and desire for each other.

On balance it sounds to me like he is the one who is being a little immature!

[SammyMouse]

i completely agree.
i am only young and i am not married, however i can understand what you mean,

i dont believe there is anything at all wrong with wanting a little affection, and to feel like he still loves you and finds you attractive.

i certainly wouldnt say wanting this connection with your partner immature?

doesnt it say more 4 u bcoz u understand these feelings and want to experience them. immature ppl wouldnt know wot love was and wouldnt know how to give it, which u seem to be doing.
its your man being immature, and he seems to immature to be able to see when he is in the wrong.

[Vixen916]

Although I am not married, I understand the feeling of wanting the compliments, wanting better attention, feeling needed and appreciated. It's part of human nature. Things always seem to fall off in relationships and the men get defensive when you ask them to bring it all back.. I know my man doesn't give me quite the amount of compliments he used to.
Maybe you should surprise him with some romantic dinners, candles and sexy lingerie, see how he reacts to you then. I'm sure the compliments and desired attention will come.

[sexykitty]

There's a wonderful game called "Strip Chocolate", you can get it on the site mypleasure.com. Buy it and leave it on the bed, see if he shows interest....