that sounds great just dont let it mess up your future if you have to do some thing first do it! just love does not have an age i am a young person inlove also just one year older then you and i want to spend the rest of my life with my girl friend but marrage does not have to be right away ... just 1 tip for when u do get married act like ur dating you will last so much more being happyer and haveing more excitment

i hope my crapy words helped at all but theres a lot of smart people here it seems like so they probably helped good luck love is forever

congrats on gettin married BrowneyedEvelyn... also what hasent been said is that me and c+m=14335 have known each other for more than a year and a half, and what people are forgeting is that were waiting until high school is over but i do like alot of your guys thoughts thank you all for you input.

All good points. People are different. But I'll add my 2-cents for what they're worth. I've been "in love" with three women in my lifetime. First was in high school. We dated nearly 3 years, spoke of marriage. She ultimately fell out of love with me. She needed to spread her wings and I understood. We dated from 14-16 and, up until the end, felt we would be together forever.

The next was in college. Again a 2+-year loving, committed relationship that was going to last forever. That was until I would occassionally feel that I just didn't want to see her. Couldn't pinpoint it, and it wasn't a constant thing. But it was ultimately clear that it wasn't meant to be.

Finally, at the age of 25 I met a young woman. I was 4 years out of college and established in my career. She was the same age and just out of grad school. We were engaged within 6-weeks. Had a 1-year engagement and have now been married 20-years.

I can HONESTLY say, knowing what I know now, that there was absolutely no way a marriage to my first or second "real" loves would have lasted. Not because they or I weren't "old" enough, but because we had not yet matured to the point of knowing who we were going to be when we grew up.

It's not about age. It's about committment, communication, priorities and give 'n take. All I knew when I was 16 or 21 was that I was in love. That's all that mattered. But I've learned it's much more than that. It's being IN LOVE with your partner when you want to hate them. It's admitting that you understand that you hurt your partner although you're not entirely sure how you did it. It's about taking joint responsibility for how your marriage will benefit from the ups and downs; and how you'll handle the problem when you're at polar opposites of an argument.

I'm old, and I'm probably a fogey, but I don't feel that 99% of the 16-year olds out there can fully grasp what they're going to face and where they want their lives to head in their next 10 years. And of equal importantance- is it the roughly the same place your partner wants to be as well?

well I just had to post here because I am 18 and I am Married. ME and muh husband have been married almost a year. I just turned 18 in just and he will turn 17 in november. we are really happy. Alot of people have told us "your too young" but we just ignore them. I'm not saying that marrage isnt hard, because beleive me no matter how ready i thought i was, or how many stoires i've heard, I still have to work at it everyday. Marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done. We were going to wait to get married untill we got out of high school, but I got pregnate. So we went ahead. Niether of us quit school either. But we now how alot more responsiblity and its really hard. But in the end I think the only thing that really matters is that we love each other.dont let anyone tell you your "too young" to know what love is or if you wanna be married, its not up to them, they dont know you and they cant say how you feel.

The day you posted the message, I married my boyfriend who then became my husband, obviously. I am 29, and I still got comments: "But you're so young!!" We've known each other for a year, so I also got comments "that's too soon". With experience I know though, that this is the real thing.

I was engaged before when I was 19. It felt so nice at the time, warm and fuzzy to think that he'd be there for the rest of my life. However, it didn't take me long to realize he'd bore me to death. Since then I've fallen in love with numerous of guys, each one being better than the other one. With experience I learned to make a difference between dreams and reality. I didn't know the difference at the age of 20, and not even close at the age of 16. But who am I to say you don't know it either, maybe you do. Listen to the people who are older than you, who are happily married and who know you both. Ask them, do they think you'll regret it in 20 years time if you leave him or stay with him.

However, at 16 waiting 2 years is a LONG time. If you make through the 2 years, who knows, maybe you're supposed to get married.

I think LittleFury said it best (the wasn't meant to be if you can't last through a long engagement part), but I see nothing wrong with getting married young as long as kids aren't brought into the picture (until you're prepared for them). They'll be an anchor around your neck and any progress you try to make in life will be that much more difficult.

I dont think age matters, i think its different for every couple. One friend of mine got married at 21 and she was far from ready and very clueless about the real world (bills, rent, ect)

yet another of my friends is marrying in a month (also 21 years old) and she has a wise head on her shoulders and has been with her fiance for a long time they will be a strong couple forever. x

[QUOTE=Quote ]And if you 2 can't last through a long engagement, then it wasn't meant to be.
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Maybe I'm losing my romantic bone too, but LittleFury's comments make sense to me. Life after highschool is a completely different ballgame for most, and even a few years down the road from there can have you looking back and not being able to recognize the girl you were at 16. Or 18 for that matter.

How about getting engaged at 18, and seeing if it can withstand a couple years of exploration first?

[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ Sep. 17 2005,13:50)]I don't think age has anything to do with it.
If you're ready to take on all the responsibilites of life AND marriage AND all the difficulties it may bring AND you are mature enough to handle it all, then why not.
Everyone is ready at different times.  My parents got married when they were 23 and will be together 34 years in October.  I'm 24 and can't say I'm ready to be married (although the fact that I don't have someone poses a problem.  lol.).  She knew people that got married right out of high school, and they're still married.
I know someone that got married right out of high school, and they're still married.  My brother knows some and they're still married.
I know a couple that were high school sweethearts.  She graduated, he moved, they survived a long distance relationship and they met back up in college and right out of college they got married and now have a child.
We do however all know people that got married right out of school and got divorced soon after.

So really, again, it all just depends on you.  Everyone is different.
If you are ready for everything and are mature enough for it, then your age shouldn't really be a factor.[/QUOTE]
very nicely put...

[QUOTE=Quote (Acid_Burn @ Sep. 17 2005,19:49)]very nicely put...[/QUOTE]
Thank you.

As I'm getting older, I'm becoming more practical than romantic. So here is my 2 cents
Thinking and deciding to marry at 16 is romantic, yet silly.
You are not ready to be married at 18. At 16 you are still not an adult, you are still somewhat of a kid that does not know real life. Even in the next 2 years you are going to change a lot. What about then you go to college or uni. You will change so much that you will be surprised. What happens then that takes place while you are married. A lot of times it can be a disaster.
Second. So you'll be 18. How are you going to support yourself? With mommy or daddy's help? Or working an entry level job while trying, hopefully, to get an university degree? What happens if you have a baby? How are you going to support that baby? At 18 you just don't have the maturity or the experience to be able to deal with those things well. I'm talking from my own experience.
Look, there is nothing wrong wiht waiting. You can have a long engagement. My guy and I are. We are waiting about another 5 years before we get married. Why? Becuase both of us want to finish our education. And not the basic education. We both have degree's alread. I got BA degree, and he's got an AS degree. But we have decided that those weren't good enough, and we could do better, for the family's sake. So he's back to school to get BS at age of 32 and I'm in law school at 22. We are together, and that all that matters.
You need to wait, and you need to get an education so that you can support yourself if anything happens. And if you 2 can't last through a long engagement, then it wasn't meant to be.
Yes this sounds unromantic, but maybe if people thougth more with there heads and didn't rush into marriage, there would be far less bussiness for family law attorneys.

First off that green color is the hardest color to read on this board. Or I'm old and my eyes have gone to hell.

Your 16 now and in love with your boyfriend. That is lovely and I hope it last for 60 years. Just prepare yourself that you will change and grow over the years. At almost 40, I'm much different then the 18 year old girl I once was. I got married the first time at 19 and that lasted a year and half. Second marriage lasted 17 years and now I'm on to what I really believe is my last relationship. But, one can't know that for sure. Not that it's going to stop me from giving it my all. I like to believe in happily ever after even when that doesn't happen.

I say please wait until your 18 at least. Think with your head and not just with your heart. Discuss everything and be realistic. Like Oberon said, bills, sickness, kids all alter your relationship greatly. What you think you love about him today you might just hate 5 years down the road. How do you plan to deal with that?

Good luck and for goodness sake enjoy being a teenager before you want to take on the life of a grown-up.

LOL.  Well, I'll be totally UNromantic for a moment.  

Living with another person can be difficult- even when you love that person. You aren't always going to agree and you really have to work on communication.

Now, add to that, LIFE is hard.  There are bills to pay, sickness, death, accidents and natural disasters... If you don't have the skills or means to deal with them, then they can tear a relationship apart.   Then, add kids to the mix and you've got even more potential for difficulty.

What I'm trying to say is that age ISN'T important.  Maturity and responsibility are.  If you can look at that list of problems and say, "We can deal with that if it happens.", then you have a chance at a good marriage.  Love may conquer all... but neither the phone company nor the grocery store will accept it as payment.

Well, the romantic perspective would be that love is ageless and it would be supported with tales of folks who got married as young teen-agers and spent the rest of their lives together.

I'm capable of being a romantic, apparently... at least I'm told that I've been quite mushy since falling in love with Loripop. But practically speaking, 16 is a bit young to decide how and who you will spend the rest of your life with. It is wise, at least, to wait until you're 18. There's a lot to be said for waiting a little beyond that.

There are lots of reasons for this, including the fact that you should have some life experience to bring to the marriage. Love is of course the basis for it, but being and staying a couple requires some skill too and those skills are usually developed over time. In other words, it's not always a case of NOT getting married; it's more a case of preparing to get married and understanding that it could take some time.

To marry someone without the skill and maturity required to love him or her well - and to be able to accept his or her love in return - is wrong. It just happens that many of those skills and maturity develop a bit later in life than teens, particularly in today's world. That's a generality, but a pretty safe one.

I don't think age has anything to do with it.
If you're ready to take on all the responsibilites of life AND marriage AND all the difficulties it may bring AND you are mature enough to handle it all, then why not.
Everyone is ready at different times. My parents got married when they were 23 and will be together 34 years in October. I'm 24 and can't say I'm ready to be married (although the fact that I don't have someone poses a problem. lol.). She knew people that got married right out of high school, and they're still married.
I know someone that got married right out of high school, and they're still married. My brother knows some and they're still married.
I know a couple that were high school sweethearts. She graduated, he moved, they survived a long distance relationship and they met back up in college and right out of college they got married and now have a child.
We do however all know people that got married right out of school and got divorced soon after.

So really, again, it all just depends on you. Everyone is different.
If you are ready for everything and are mature enough for it, then your age shouldn't really be a factor.

well it sounds like you love your bf very much and if your waiting until your 18 than that means your prob finishing high school. so its not like your going to ruin your chances at an education. Am not seeing a problem yes maybe 18 is a little young butbut as some other people have posted love doesent have an age. as some people have also posted about bills and what not, "money is the root of all evil" but you should let it ruin your marriage. so i say yes i think you should go and get married