i remember there was a really expensive one called microsheer or something like that...it supposedly transfers body heat and lets the user feel more...i can't really remember though because we don't use them

i just remember my two favorite brands were Kimono and Beyond Seven

I do hope she is using a form of birth control because the withdrawal method is very risky since precum contains sperm. Read this by Brandye on Birth Control Failure rates:

If 100 women have regular sex for a year, the number who become pregnant will be:

No protection - 85

Withdrawal - 40

Condoms alone - 10

Spermicide alone - 15

Hormone (pill, etc) - 3

Condoms plus spermicide in the vagina - 3

IUD - 4

This all assumes protection, properly used, every time. The spermicide on the condom should be considered lube. There is not enough to really protect against pregnancy. There should be 150 mg's of spermicide in the vagina and the normal dose (applicator, sheet, tablet, suppository) of whatever you are using will provide this.

Good God Man - if this wasn't so sad it would be funny ... you say KNOW the concern!?

Well if you DO know the risks you must be a born gambler, as you should be giving your head a shake at the risks you and your girlfriend are taking.

Use a combination of BC methods to be as safe as possible, in order to reduce your present likelihood (yes, "LIKELIHOOD" - not "possibility") of pregnancy.

The only couple I personally know who relied on the Withdrawal (Rythm) Method have ELEVEN children. Enough said!?

[QUOTE=DefCon;191257]I know, hence the concern :P[/QUOTE]

It much like playing Russian Roulette, giving into whims is just bad news unless you plan on an impending family sooner then later! Looking at the withdrawal failure rate; out of 100 women 40 will become pregnant. And who is to say you have the control each time to pull out (not to mention the pre-cum leaking matter)? There are times when the body cannot predict and as a man you can miscalculate; thus, the result is unintended ejaculation in the vagina; leading to unintended consequences. Then the rate sky rockets to 85 women out of every 100 becoming pregnant.

Sit down and have a serious discussion regarding birth control (hopefully you do not need to discuss an unwanted/unplanned pregnancy first). No sex until she uses a spermicide contraceptive and you put a condom on.

If the condom is the issue and both are disease free (STD tested & 100% monogamous), use a thinner type of condom to allow you more sensation or put some lube in the condom to help you, and she uses the BCP or Spermicide. I do not recommend skipping condoms since the transmission of STD's happen. You both may think all is clean & well but there are times one partner engages in outside activity unbeknown to the other & diseases result.

Explain to the virgin lady at College who slept with her first, she knew he would NEVER do this to her (cheat) he loved her, she swore up and down & even faulted herself as "I must have had it and not known" (yes, she had no sexual contact ever with another person) that in fact monogamous relationships have slip ups. Explaining to her how she contracted a STD was awful; she truly believed him & loved him.

The point? Wrap the rascal and she uses a separate form of BC. Love is great, even married people slip up and drag home diseases to their spouse--don't feel either of you are above it happening.

Several issues here:

1. shop around for the best fit of thin condoms - go online and then USE them
2. she should be on BCPs - period
3. focus your mind - become more sensitive so the loss of sensation while using a condom has little effect upon you - learn to love nuance
4. she should be doing kegels so she can grip you with her internal muscles and squeeze the life out of your penis - giving you more sensation that way.

There are no insults happening here; these are the facts of life. You play a bad game & get caught. Correcting it is the proper action but disregarding the risk for pregnancy and STD's are very real actions which do happen. If we were in a perfect world, everyone who is "faithful" would not be spreading STD's and mainly HPV (many times innocently) to partners.

As I have said many times; you expect a married couple who are monogamous to remain that way...often one falls to whims and risks the other's health. If you would not expect that from a spouse, a bf & gf are just a susceptible unknown to the other partner.

Giving you a hard time? Not really, just trying to emphasize the need to be VERY, VERY safe for both of you.

Rule is you use a condom and she uses birth control of her own, each accepts their responsibility in the act. Have issues with the tried & true condoms? Find those which are thinner and she gets on the pill, IUD, or at minimum--spermicide.

I think what he was meaning by insults is that he wasn't asking for everyone to tell him what he's doing wrong with not using a condom, but he's asking for advice on what condom would feel best for his situation. He already knows that he has a risk or w/e you want to call it of gettin her pregnant. The whole point of him writing for advice was for condoms, not for how much of a risk he is taking, he already knows this obviously and is ok with the risk.

What has worked for me and my bf is he uses the ultra thin ones. Although the one problem that we have had is that they are so thin you really have to watch how dry or wet she gets. If she gets a little too dry, it will break and then you could have a bigger problem on your hands.

So I would try the ultra thin ones with extra sensation. Hope that helped! :)

[quote=summerbreeze;191326]I think what he was meaning by insults is that he wasn't asking for everyone to tell him what he's doing wrong with not using a condom, but he's asking for advice on what condom would feel best for his situation. He already knows that he has a risk or w/e you want to call it of gettin her pregnant. The whole point of him writing for advice was for condoms, not for how much of a risk he is taking, he already knows this obviously and is ok with the risk.[/quote]
I guess you practice medicine differently then I do; I never make assumptions since if it was strictly just a condom issue then that would have been all the info the OP provided, nothing additional. I never assume people understand the risks. As far as addressing the specific question note it is contained in my post...use a thinner one.

If you read here long enough you will find many do not know the risks they are taking. I highly doubt he is "okay" with it since he is concerned.

I do not see anything cynical, this is life. Would you rather no one explained it to you and you found out later, surprise? Why post the extraneous & detailed information, some light reading today for everyone? The fact is people had a negative reaction, if you just wanted to know about thin condoms you would have asked or done a Net search.

Try the thin animal skin ones. Use caution they do rip.

[QUOTE=DefCon;191254]Hey, not sure if this is the proper place to put this but.. I'm just wondering if anyone could recommend a condom that has adequate protection but lets the user feel a little more.[/QUOTE]

One poster offered the best idea, but didn't elaborate. When you first open the condom, put a few drops of good quality water-based lube directly in the receptacle tip. Don't lubricate your entire penis since it may increase the risk of the condom slipping off. The moisture in the tip of the condom will increase your pleasure during sex.

It's well worth your time to experiment with different condoms and discover what works best for YOU. I recommend www.condomania.com to view the incredible variety of condoms available and their best use. (You can always order them online there too.)

Polyurethane condoms usually provide more pleasure during intercourse, but are somewhat less protective since they break more often than latex condoms. Animal skin condoms feel good but they do not protect against HIV and some other STIs. The pores are large enough for a virus (much smaller than sperm) to pass through. Latex condoms can be different thicknesses, and you can test an ultrathin brand.

For increased pleasure during vaginal intercourse, I recommend that the woman uses a female condom - if money is not a big problem for you.

It is made of polyurethane which is thinner than most latex condoms, transmits body heat, and increases sensation. It does not require that you pull out immediately after you ejaculate, so your penis can stay inside her vagina and cuddle for awhile afterwards if you wish. Polyurethane condoms do not require water-based lubricant because polyurethane is not affected by oil-based lubricants the way latex condoms are. Lubricant is a good idea because it eliminates the common and bothersome "squeaking" noise some couples experience during use.

Most people who see a female condom for the first time are dismayed by its size and those funny rings and where is this thing supposed to go it's so big oh forget it! Persistence and practice will pay off. The woman or couple should start out with a long practice session with one practice condom. I'm not going to cover the directions here, I'm just going to say that if you read the directions and try, try, try again it will become easy to master. Once you figure it out, get a new female condom and use that for sex. Don't have sex the first time you try one unless you both have a high frustration tolerance and terrific sense of humor.

There are drawbacks to the female condom. Last I checked, it was about 3X more expensive than high-end male condoms. When wearing the female condom, the vulva looks very different and cunnilingus would have to be limited to the upper half of the vulva where the clitoris is. But she can put in the female condom after you go down on her or after the condom is removed. She can urinate while wearing the condom because the urethra is above the outer ring. Finally, polyurethane has a slightly higher breakage rate.

Don't use more than one condom at a time, male or female or both. You can use spermicide with the female condom for extra protection against pregnancy. The spermicides and other microbicides are no longer recommended for HIV prevention, however.

Hope this helps!

No problem Defcon, hope it helped.

Sera, I have noticed that a lot of people put down more information than they should (b/c what I have seen people don't address what the person is wanting them to enough; instead they are addressing everything else in the post). I have done it myself. When writing I just put down the exact situation so someone might be able to give me better advice.

In his situation he was not asking if he was safe not using a condom he was asking how to make using a condom feel better for him.

*To me* instead of going on and on about him not using one; people should have just simply said that not using a condom whether he pulls out or not could still get her pregnant and maybe he should think about that. BUT also I was not assuming that he didn't know the risk, he stated it that he did. Therefore *TO ME* mentioning the risks wasn't necessary.

Now if the person did not mention anything at all of concern for a action that they should be concerned about; by all means fill them in. :)

I subscribe to the theory of "education" and if I do not then I fall short of what my profession teaches. It's just personal preferences. The more knowledge; the more an individual is empowered! No biggie.

I'd rather give too much then too little info., had enough where it came back to "bite me". An analogy? A patient presents with an acute Appendicitis, they have belly pain, realize they require surgery (not happy about that one). If I fail to clearly outline all potential outcomes + & -, I am at fault. Telling them death is a risk is also part of what I must do. I tend to over write & I do know that, he may know the risks but not fully. As he states he does, perhaps the stats and info will help another person!

As you notice, this is a theme (2 forms of BC) on this site...many explain why. Hate to see someone fall into a bad situation if I could have corrected it! Plus being on call, getting calls for 3 nights from patients makes me...pissy!

Also, I did correct one of your posts re: semen (someone "nailed" me way back when I was exhausted on the same subject) & it the sperm does not dry on contact with air...just HIV does. And preg risks in the same post. Nothing personal, please. Just trying to dispel myths for future readers. As I was told...(I stated seman) reminds them of little guys in a boat, LOL! Rule is any sperm/semen in contact w/vag fluids runs a risk. Brandye had a patient diagnosed w/preg from anal only. I had one (hymen intact) diagnosed as positive preg. due to the bf ejaculating on her belly! I hate to see 14 y/o's delivering a baby! Please it's not personal at either of you, I just care about health, welfare, and safety of all--why else would I stay up all night on call? It's not the money!

Thank you for informing me on that. I did not know that semen could still get you pregnant being any where near the vagina. Now I can inform some of my friends that thought otherwise as well.

I respect what you do, and did not mean to sound bitter towards you or anything. :)

[quote=summerbreeze;191397]Thank you for informing me on that. I did not know that semen could still get you pregnant being any where near the vagina. Now I can inform some of my friends that thought otherwise as well.

I respect what you do, and did not mean to sound bitter towards you or anything. :)[/quote]
Me? No offense taken! It's so important that people know when semen/sperm come in contact with vaginal fluids they risk a pregnancy. Vaginal fluid provides a wonderful transport medium for sperm to reach their intended destination--your egg! If the info prevents one pregnancy, it's well worth the time & effort.