the other subjects don't cover what i want to know. I just talked to my boyfriend and he is very curious and willing to find out about anal... on his end. So what do i do. i read what they have on the main page but is there a certain area in the anus that i should aim for? Where is the gland? what is a good teqnique? should i give him head and then wiat till he comes close to climax? Should i do it right away? and what about during sex? Can i reach around and do it then or when i am in reverse cowgirl would that be good to?
thank you,
JoAnn
I've never gotten anal, and it doesn't particularly interest me. Sorry I can't help.
[QUOTE=oberon]However, I have to wonder about gay "friends"... I'm not sure I could be friends with someone who thought I was "sickening".[/QUOTE]You took what I said out of context. Why?
Dewd, your winnin' the stupid contest by a long shot...better stop now! :)
Get your finger, middle or index might be best, very moist. Lube might help. The area between the penis and anus is extremely sensitive. That's a good place to rub and stroke. As for actually going in, be very gentle. The area you want to hit is toward where the penis is (but inside, of course). Curve your finger and feel along the inside wall, and apply gentle pressure. It should drive him to orgasm very quickly.
Browser, you should give it a go sometime.
I have to admit I was never big on the male anal thing until she recently gave me a hand job and she just stuck a finger in there and I climaxed through the roof.I never thought I would care for it but damn.
I got fingered a few days ago. I was standing with her finger in me thinking "well this is awkward." Oh well; to each his own.
[QUOTE=Luke]I have to admit I was never big on the male anal thing until she recently gave me a hand job and she just stuck a finger in there and I climaxed through the roof.I never thought I would care for it but damn.[/QUOTE]That was basically my experience.
Who'd of thought? :D
[QUOTE=Khyron]
Who'd of thought? :D[/QUOTE]
Oh, only several million gay men. ;) :D
[QUOTE=oberon]Oh, only several million gay men. ;) :D[/QUOTE]I imagine that is true (although I really don't want to imagine anything involving the sexual acts of gay men... :eek:).
[QUOTE=Khyron]Get your finger, middle or index might be best, very moist. Lube might help. The area between the penis and anus is extremely sensitive. That's a good place to rub and stroke. As for actually going in, be very gentle. The area you want to hit is toward where the penis is (but inside, of course). Curve your finger and feel along the inside wall, and apply gentle pressure. It should drive him to orgasm very quickly.
Browser, you should give it a go sometime.[/QUOTE]
yes thats a really sensitive place (between the penis and anus) but watch it!!
too much presure will cause the opposite feelling.. a little presure will just do it (and i dont think robbin' it will give pleasure!)
[QUOTE=Khyron]I imagine that is true (although I really don't want to imagine anything involving the sexual acts of gay men... :eek:).[/QUOTE]
Fair deal. :D But, we do have some good ideas occasionally for what can make a man (yes, even a straight man) feel good. :)
The annual anal performed by my caring doctor (with plenty of lube) suffices. I doubt that I'd enjoy it any more if he were a female.
[QUOTE=oberon]Fair deal. :D But, we do have some good ideas occasionally for what can make a man (yes, even a straight man) feel good. :)[/QUOTE]Just PLEASE, do not demonstrate this on, in front, behind, or anywhere near me!
If the gender I'm with cannot help me to procreate,
then with that date,
I will not mate.:)
Hmmm... straight male paranoia.
My GF and I got a toy called the Anerus. It is inserted and rubs the prostate from inside and had a knob that also adds pressure on the area between the penis and anus. First time we used it I came through the roof. Dont know why I never got sooner:D
[QUOTE=oberon]Hmmm... straight male paranoia.[/QUOTE]You didn't like my rhyme? :D
It's not paranoia. It's disgust, to be honest. The thought of two males together sickens me. I don't even like seeing two females together (believe it or not).
I do try to have a sense of humour about it. I've had some gay friends over the years, and I've found that's a good way to deal with this type of things when it comes up.
[QUOTE=Khyron]You didn't like my rhyme? :D
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Not really. But to each his (or her) own. And I've heard worse.
However, I have to wonder about gay "friends"... I'm not sure I could be friends with someone who thought I was "sickening".
[QUOTE=Khyron]You took what I said out of context. Why?[/QUOTE]
"Out of context"? How exactly? You said (and I'm pulling your post)...
[QUOTE=Khyron]
It's not paranoia. It's disgust, to be honest. The thought of two males together sickens me. I don't even like seeing two females together (believe it or not).[/QUOTE]
From that post, I understand that you consider the idea of people like myself to be "disgusting" and we "sicken" you? You say that you've had gay friends. What I have to wonder is how they could be your friends if you feel this way. Personally, if I find someone "disgusting", then I try to have as little to do with them as possible... and I'd certainly not catagorize them as "friends".
I also find it sad that you consider displays of love and affection to be sickening. As a gay man in a overwhelmingly straight world, I've been subjected to such displays between heterosexuals my entire life. Now, while I don't want to participate in such activities, I can appreciate the feelings of those involved in them and don't find the display disgusting. It's the natural process between two individuals of that orientation. And the same would go for two gay people.
[QUOTE=oberon]"Out of context"? How exactly? You said (and I'm pulling your post)...
From that post, I understand that you consider the idea of people like myself to be "disgusting" and we "sicken" you? You say that you've had gay friends. What I have to wonder is how they could be your friends if you feel this way. Personally, if I find someone "disgusting", then I try to have as little to do with them as possible... and I'd certainly not catagorize them as "friends".
I also find it sad that you consider displays of love and affection to be sickening. As a gay man in a overwhelmingly straight world, I've been subjected to such displays between heterosexuals my entire life. Now, while I don't want to participate in such activities, I can appreciate the feelings of those involved in them and don't find the display disgusting. It's the natural process between two individuals of that orientation. And the same would go for two gay people.[/QUOTE]
You can't compare being straight to being gay, and the reactions involved when affection is displayed in public....You aknowledged yourslef, the fact that this is an overwhelmingly straight world, so why would you expect anything short of shock or distaste from a majority of the population...And you can't help what you find disgusting...some things just turn people off...That doesn't mean that he or anyone else thinks of you as less of a person...I personally find it unappealing to see 2 men together...But that doesn't mean that I cant have friends that are gay...It doesn't mean I think Gay people should die, or have less rights or anything crazy like that...Just like if your parents thought that your sexual preference was disgusting, does that mean that they have to love you less ??? NO...You can have a problem with certain aspects of peoples lives, but that doesn't neccessarily mean that you overall don't like that person....
[QUOTE=luv2lick]You can't compare being straight to being gay, and the reactions involved when affection is displayed in public....You aknowledged yourslef, the fact that this is an overwhelmingly straight world, so why would you expect anything short of shock or distaste from a majority of the population...And you can't help what you find disgusting...some things just turn people off...That doesn't mean that he or anyone else thinks of you as less of a person...I personally find it unappealing to see 2 men together...But that doesn't mean that I cant have friends that are gay...It doesn't mean I think Gay people should die, or have less rights or anything crazy like that...Just like if your parents thought that your sexual preference was disgusting, does that mean that they have to love you less ??? NO...You can have a problem with certain aspects of peoples lives, but that doesn't neccessarily mean that you overall don't like that person....[/QUOTE]
I can and will compare being gay to being straight. The emotions involved are identical.
As for the reaction of the public, I don't expect disgust or distaste. If that is the reaction, then it's someone else's problem. Not mine.
And yes... it would mean that they would love you less. Being gay isn't a choice someone makes. It's a part of who they are. If someone can't accept that, then they aren't accepting the whole person. You might not want anyone to die or commit violence against them, but it's homophobia none the less.
[QUOTE=oberon]I can and will compare being gay to being straight. The emotions involved are identical.
As for the reaction of the public, I don't expect disgust or distaste. If that is the reaction, then it's someone else's problem. Not mine.
And yes... it would mean that they would love you less. Being gay isn't a choice someone makes. It's a part of who they are. If someone can't accept that, then they aren't accepting the whole person. You might not want anyone to die or commit violence against them, but it's homophobia none the less.[/QUOTE]
I just plain don't agree with you...how can you yourself admit that a mojority of the population is a certain way, and then be shocked when you are singled out or catch funny looks...And you are saying that just because someone doesn't agree with one aspect of your life...Thats like if someone smokes...i think it is very disgusting also...I can't stand it...But I have friends that smoke...I have chilled with people who were gay...I didn't feel threatned nor homophobic....What they do behind close doors is their business, but I do however find the thought of two men together unappealing...Just like I find smokers unappealing....The ONLY people I really just HATE are gay smokers...LMAO...J/K....But my point is that just because someone doesn't agree with one aspect of your life doesn't mean they think of you as an overall bad person...And i can come up with other examples but smokers were the first to come to mind...and BTW, how do you know that the feelings involved in a str8 and gay relationship are the same if you are gay ??? And also you can say "it's someone elses problem", but truthfuly we both know it's not...It's your problem because you are seen as the "Odd" one..not saying you are odd, but just that a majority of society is str8 so that makes you different....You are a human and you deserve rights and equality and all that good stuff, but I think you have to face the fact that you are going to be viewed as different....
[QUOTE=luv2lick]I just plain don't agree with you...how can you yourself admit that a mojority of the population is a certain way, and then be shocked when you are singled out or catch funny looks...And you are saying that just because someone doesn't agree with one aspect of your life...Thats like if someone smokes...i think it is very disgusting also...I can't stand it...But I have friends that smoke...I have chilled with people who were gay...I didn't feel threatned nor homophobic....What they do behind close doors is their business, but I do however find the thought of two men together unappealing...Just like I find smokers unappealing....The ONLY people I really just HATE are gay smokers...LMAO...J/K....But my point is that just because someone doesn't agree with one aspect of your life doesn't mean they think of you as an overall bad person...And i can come up with other examples but smokers were the first to come to mind...and BTW, how do you know that the feelings involved in a str8 and gay relationship are the same if you are gay ??? And also you can say "it's someone elses problem", but truthfuly we both know it's not...It's your problem because you are seen as the "Odd" one..not saying you are odd, but just that a majority of society is str8 so that makes you different....You are a human and you deserve rights and equality and all that good stuff, but I think you have to face the fact that you are going to be viewed as different....[/QUOTE]
First, you are most welcome to disagree with me. But that doesn't change my opinion.
You pick smoking. First, it's NOT a good comparison because it's something someone chooses to do. Second, it's not a good comparison because it's something that can be done without infringing on anyone else's sensibilities. You don't usually discussing smoking with your friends. They aren't supposed to be particularly happy for you when you find another brand you like.
And you are another with gay "friends". So, these "friends"... do they discuss their dates with you? If they have a problem regarding their relationships do they talk to you about it? How about if they go away for a romantic weekend? Do you enjoy hearing about it? If they wanted to get married, would you attend? What if they wanted to have children?
The point I'm trying to make is you CAN'T cut the fact that someone is gay out of their life and still refer to that person as your friend. You might not want to have gay sex, but you CAN understand that love and sex feel the same way for everyone. You can know that if a guy dumps me or cheats on me what that feels like from your perspective. Oh... and YES, I do know how a straight relationship feels. Gay people are expected to "try" to be straight at least once. (Hmm... I wonder how you'd like it if someone expected you to try to be gay once?) Anyway, yes, I have tried the other side of the fence.
As far as the societal view, it IS someone else's problem if they they don't care for the fact that I'm gay. Yes, I may have to deal with it, but I'm not the one in the wrong. I can't change who I am. Nor do I want to.
Regarding being different. I AM different. But there is a huge difference between being different and being "odd" or in the word of the previous poster, "disgusting". In fact, everyone is "different". Even identical twins have their differences. Learning to accept that fact and the realization that it is a good thing would go a long way in getting rid of some of the prejudice and hatred in the world.
One last thing... I'm a gay smoker. Try not to dislike me too much. :p
Forgive me for not reading your whole post as I am limited on time...but buddy i wish you the best and I just think you need to see the bigger picture...I know smoking isn't the same as your sexual preference, but I think you missed my whole point...my point was that even though someone doesn't agree with a certain aspect of your life, doesn't mean they dislike you as a person...And i don't know whether or not you or anyone else "chooses" their sexual preference, but even if you are attracted to men it is your choice to act upon it...just like it's someones choice to choose whether or not to succumb to temptation...I don't agree with either of them...and like i said, just because someone doesn't agree with one thing you do doesn't mean that they hate you or totally dislike you overall.....Im just saying that because thats how i am...I can only imagine what you go through being a gay man, but my message to you is that just because someone is str8, doesn't agree with being gay, doesn't think its right...doesn't mean they don't like you as a person....heck i don't even know you but i've spent my time responding, and I can't stand the thought, idea or notion of homosexuality....But like i said, I still respect people....Everyone who doesn't agree with homosexuality isn't out to get you, or be mean, or dislike you as a person...
I'm not completely paranoid. I don't believe that everyone who disagrees with homosexuality is "out to get me". However, far too many are. How far do you take disagreement? You can dislike the idea of gay sex and not dislike gay people. After all, I dislike the idea of straight sex (for myself) but don't dislike straight people. Nor do I find the idea of straight sex or displays of affection "disgusting".
You can take my word for it that no one chooses their sexual orientation. Not even bisexuals. Personally, I detest the argument that "you don't have to act on it". And why not?? It's a part of who I am. It is not something that in any way harms anyone. You would never tell a straight person not to act on their attraction to the opposite sex, so why should the rules be any different for gay people?
My stance is you are free to dislike gay sex. You are free to dislike gay people. Just don't tell me how I'm suppose to feel and by all means (!!!) don't make laws that affect my life when it has no bearing on yours.
Um... I'm going to attempt to real this post in.... I like it when my g/f slides a toy in me.....heaven!!
LOL, Cdphose. I generally don't like to take topics off-course, but I feel somewhat less guilty about this one since the information originally asked for can be obtained in the pinned topic at the top of the forum... all one needs to do is read it. :)
I agree oberon, just thought i'd try and diffuse a possibly volatile situation.....:)