go with the flow but kiss back! its not as hard as it seems lol if your partner has done it before let them lead you for awhile then youll know exactly what to do.
:) good lu~~ck
i have recently just started a relationship with a girl from work and we have just started kissing but we haven't used any tongue yet. i don't mind not using tongue if she isn't ready for that or doesn't want to, but how can i 'suggest' it to her without ruining it by asking?
i am a complete newbie when it comes to women, this would be my first real girlfriend really and the last time i kissed a girl with tongue would be like when i was 12 which was years ago so i forgot what happened.
i want it to be kinda special by not having to ask or force it upon her, i thought maybe she isn't using tongue because she hasn't got much experience herself which is kinda true, but i am just not sure.
part your lips a bit next time you kiss her and see how she reacts. If its good then go for another one but a bigger space and rub your tongue up against her lips lightly.
Not sure if it will work but its something to ponder over....
The way to start out is by lightly brushing noses with her. then tilt your head to the left or right. then lightly touch lips. start out with just a peck. make sure your lips are moist and kiss her lower/upper lip. then move in more and suck on it a little. always keep your mouth moving. you can tilt your head to the other side and do the samething. after getting in to it for a while you can open you mouth more and give a little tounge. let her do the same and you can trade off. the longer it goes the more tounge. there is a limit to how much. you don't want her to choke on your tounge or gag or anything.
touching her face is nice. put your thumb in front of her ear and the rest of your fingers behind. or if you are taller than her gently tilt her chin upwards.
the key to a romantic kiss is to start slowly and work your way into it. you don't want to just jump in there and start bashing you tounge around inside her mouth.
if you are comfortable with each other you play little games. like both of you stick your tounges out and massage each others. or just to be funny giver her way too much tounge. just have fun
heh, that's good advice thanks, i have been doing all but put my tongue in her mouth, i am worried she may freak or something, i am really in-experienced and the last time i used tongue i actually gagged so i had a bad experience before so i think i am worried i may do the same.
i really like this girl and don't wanna come off as inexperienced, well not too much, i am quite nervous to actually put my tongue in her mouth, would asking her about it spoil it do you think?
>i really like this girl and don't wanna come off as inexperienced, well not too much, i am quite nervous to actually put my tongue in her mouth, would asking her about it spoil it do you think?
Just go slow and feel the mood. Don't think about how nervous you are. Because then you might come off as inexperienced. The whole point is to have a good time.
Is the girl inexperienced? If she is then she might have the same feeling and is just waiting for you to take the next step. If she is experienced you might want to wait a little longer to see what she is comfortable with.
If you want to try I do suggest vampanju1061's advice. It seems very logical.
About the gagging. Only use a little bit of tounge the first time. Just poke the tip out of your mouth. It is an unusual sensation to get used to. But a very enjoyable one
Be prepared to accidentaly knock teeth lightly or have a small bit of drool escape. Not that either is a big deal, besides, which one of you could be blamed for it? A little practice will make those go away.
well i just finished work and met up with my girl.....had a nice time getting slightly drunk and making out, did a little tongue action here and there and it was much easier than i imagined. i really quite enjoyed it but i am not sure if she did, i think she prefers more with just lips, but it's all good anyway we spent a good few hours just kissing and being close, would have gone further i reckon but i do have a 14 hour shift in 8 hours!
[quote=HOTFIRE] >i really like this girl and don't wanna come off as inexperienced, well not too much, i am quite nervous to actually put my tongue in her mouth, would asking her about it spoil it do you think? [/quote]
Please read the information in the link provided in a post by Newtolove, a couple above yours.
well....i just finished a 14 hour shift at work and had my girl ring me up, ended up spending a lovely 3 hours or so snogging and some other stuff too :)
thanks for your advice guys, it really helped and you're right it really was easier than i expected and soooooo much fun!
first of all relax, and a way i start things is i gently run my tongue along the inside of their lips and gently bite and suck their lower lip then run my tongue along their lips again, they should get the idea and return the kissing if they're open to it, if not then just return to normal kissing and try another day. just make sure you're swallowing your saliva there's nothing worse than a REALLY wet kiss. Oh also there's always the you can talk about it thing lol
go with the flow but kiss back! its not as hard as it seems lol if your partner has done it before let them lead you for awhile then youll know exactly what to do.
:) good lu~~ck
Good start here http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/22722-kissing_and_caressing--a_young_persons_guide_exploration.html#post188122
i have recently just started a relationship with a girl from work and we have just started kissing but we haven't used any tongue yet. i don't mind not using tongue if she isn't ready for that or doesn't want to, but how can i 'suggest' it to her without ruining it by asking?
i am a complete newbie when it comes to women, this would be my first real girlfriend really and the last time i kissed a girl with tongue would be like when i was 12 which was years ago so i forgot what happened.
i want it to be kinda special by not having to ask or force it upon her, i thought maybe she isn't using tongue because she hasn't got much experience herself which is kinda true, but i am just not sure.
any suggestions?
part your lips a bit next time you kiss her and see how she reacts. If its good then go for another one but a bigger space and rub your tongue up against her lips lightly.
Not sure if it will work but its something to ponder over....
The way to start out is by lightly brushing noses with her. then tilt your head to the left or right. then lightly touch lips. start out with just a peck. make sure your lips are moist and kiss her lower/upper lip. then move in more and suck on it a little. always keep your mouth moving. you can tilt your head to the other side and do the samething. after getting in to it for a while you can open you mouth more and give a little tounge. let her do the same and you can trade off. the longer it goes the more tounge. there is a limit to how much. you don't want her to choke on your tounge or gag or anything.
touching her face is nice. put your thumb in front of her ear and the rest of your fingers behind. or if you are taller than her gently tilt her chin upwards.
the key to a romantic kiss is to start slowly and work your way into it. you don't want to just jump in there and start bashing you tounge around inside her mouth.
if you are comfortable with each other you play little games. like both of you stick your tounges out and massage each others. or just to be funny giver her way too much tounge. just have fun
lol thats 1,000x better than my advice lol
heh, that's good advice thanks, i have been doing all but put my tongue in her mouth, i am worried she may freak or something, i am really in-experienced and the last time i used tongue i actually gagged so i had a bad experience before so i think i am worried i may do the same.
i really like this girl and don't wanna come off as inexperienced, well not too much, i am quite nervous to actually put my tongue in her mouth, would asking her about it spoil it do you think?
>i really like this girl and don't wanna come off as inexperienced, well not too much, i am quite nervous to actually put my tongue in her mouth, would asking her about it spoil it do you think?
Just go slow and feel the mood. Don't think about how nervous you are. Because then you might come off as inexperienced. The whole point is to have a good time.
Is the girl inexperienced? If she is then she might have the same feeling and is just waiting for you to take the next step. If she is experienced you might want to wait a little longer to see what she is comfortable with.
If you want to try I do suggest vampanju1061's advice. It seems very logical.
About the gagging. Only use a little bit of tounge the first time. Just poke the tip out of your mouth. It is an unusual sensation to get used to. But a very enjoyable one
try this link at you tube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHPcf1aCBRk
its called "french kiss with julio iglesias"
IMO,,,the guy uses a bit too much tongue on the upper chin...too much for just a french kiss,,,that would be used later in the session..:p
Be prepared to accidentaly knock teeth lightly or have a small bit of drool escape. Not that either is a big deal, besides, which one of you could be blamed for it? A little practice will make those go away.
well i just finished work and met up with my girl.....had a nice time getting slightly drunk and making out, did a little tongue action here and there and it was much easier than i imagined. i really quite enjoyed it but i am not sure if she did, i think she prefers more with just lips, but it's all good anyway we spent a good few hours just kissing and being close, would have gone further i reckon but i do have a 14 hour shift in 8 hours!
[quote=HOTFIRE] >i really like this girl and don't wanna come off as inexperienced, well not too much, i am quite nervous to actually put my tongue in her mouth, would asking her about it spoil it do you think? [/quote]
Please read the information in the link provided in a post by Newtolove, a couple above yours.
KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION
well....i just finished a 14 hour shift at work and had my girl ring me up, ended up spending a lovely 3 hours or so snogging and some other stuff too :)
thanks for your advice guys, it really helped and you're right it really was easier than i expected and soooooo much fun!
first of all relax, and a way i start things is i gently run my tongue along the inside of their lips and gently bite and suck their lower lip then run my tongue along their lips again, they should get the idea and return the kissing if they're open to it, if not then just return to normal kissing and try another day. just make sure you're swallowing your saliva there's nothing worse than a REALLY wet kiss. Oh also there's always the you can talk about it thing lol
Thanks for good advice, I want to teach my boyfriend to french kiss as well.