i have been getting to know this girl pretty well over the last couple of weeks, we hooked up at a party like a month ago but we were both smashed and didn't remeber much...we just kissed for a bit. now it was my first real expieriance with a girl but its no biggie, the thing that worries me is that at other parties she has been sending me signs but i always freak out and never follow through, like won't kiss her again...
most recently, i was at her house watchin a movie with her, in her bed, another of our friends was also there but she was asleep, i wanted to do something but i just got nervous and didnt know wat to do....anyone help please
also is it wierd to get an erection from hugging, and also i got one from a peck on the lips i got from my old crush, i mean i know these things don't lead to sex, any suggestions on keeping him at bay for a bit longer
None of us can help you with making a move. You just have to grow some balls and do it...
No, getting erections from little things like that is not weird, and no, you can't do anything to stop it.
hahahaha, yeah alot of my friends have suggested i grow some balls....its hard though, i just keep thinkin what if i just think she wants me to do sumthing but really she doesn't, rejection and awkward moments i hate them!!!
You could just ask her if you want to mess around or something.
But seriously, grow some balls, and try to kiss her, if she shoves you off or something, be like "sorry, i really like you" or something of the sort.
Erection from hugging? Egads What is wrong with you man? lol just kidding. No worries. I mean heck I used to get erections from having a girl play with the hair on the back of my neck, or running her hand on my cheek. lol.
You want to know the secret to growing balls? Make it seem like your just joking around. I mean I always was shy as hell, but somehow I managed to muster up the courage to ask this amazing girl to be my valentine.
Rather than get nervous, and and stutter or lose my juevos, I used my nervousness to be a bit playful, and a slight bit gigly/smiley. It worked, she even said she was a bit surprised that I had the courage to actually ask her...little did she know lol.
Just be playful, and keep it light, take the lead at first, and then just follow her. If she wants more, i doubt she will be upset if you start to move your hands around and stuff.
[QUOTE=oedipussy;198223]None of us can help you with making a move. You just have to grow some balls and do it...
No, getting erections from little things like that is not weird, and no, you can't do anything to stop it.[/QUOTE]
This is a bit curt and also harsh. This is like saying I don't know how to drive a car, so take the plunge and just do it. Oedi, you've been around awhile, you could have been this fellas real benefactor by suggesting the following Sticky posts, after recommending that if they are sitting together, they cuddle, he put his arm around her, and then......
KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION
Chapter Three: (Scroll down until you get to this chapter.)
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST
Macka, in time you will want to do more. When that time comes, read some of the other articles that are listed in the Index:
--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
There is much more information in these articles than you may be ready for. That's OK. How fast and how soon you move is based upon your comfort level, her's, how secure she feels, and, how long the two of you have been sexually active--meaning making out. Please read the information on "Implied Consent". This is explained at the end of Chapter Three.
> also is it wierd to get an erection from hugging, and also i got one from a peck on the lips i got from my old crush, i mean i know these things don't lead to sex, any suggestions on keeping him at bay for a bit longer
From the onset of puberty to well into a person's forties, we suffer from a perpetual condition known as "Spontaneous Erections" in which our penis seems to have a mind and will of its own. We get erections many times during the day and sometimes at the most in opportune times. Not to worry, these erections are quite normal and every guy on the planet has experienced them and every boy coming up through puberty will. These are triggered by all sorts of sensory inputs, for example:
* provocative ads in clothing catalogs
* store manequin
* passing an attractive person on the street or in the mall
* other sights
* smells
* touch
* being in close proximity to someone
* thoughts
* fantasies
One way of hiding an erection is to orient your penis vertically and positioning it under the fly of your pants. Just reach in a front pocket and move it around when no one is looking.
I hope this is of help. Got questions??
cheers ducy and dancingdoc2, really helpful, i appreciate you being able to neglect my condition of not having any balls and giving me helpful advice....just hope i don't chicken out again next time
im not sure if its on what dancing doc gave ya but a good old massage is realy good, loads of girls want one from me ^^. But try and work in little other things.
yeah, well that was the second time she invited me over that day, but its hard to know whether thats just the way they are cause i dunno, i've only ever been really good mates with girlsso i'm not used to doin this ****...
massage is a good idea, even if its just a little tickle on the back to start off with....another thing is she was lyin on her side but her back was to me, that confussed me
woke up during the night and her face was really close to mine and her hand was on my leg very close to my crouch...i am an idiot hey
I think its obvious she likes you.... during the movie you should have just gently turned her head and kissed her..... she wants you to.
Willya please just KISS THE GIRL already!?!?!
She's most likely wondering what is wrong with her.
Perhaps she should have sent you a gilt-edged invitation?
Okay, she was probably turned away from you cuz she wanted you take make a move, whether you turn her over and kiss her, or you snuggle up in the spooning position. When you woke up, it was probably because she was hoping her hand and face right there would help persuade you to make the move.
And you know...to all the ladies out there, it would be so much easier if you would just say F****N Kiss me damn it. lol
Trust me, Ducy - I do make it quite clear. But that kind of aggressiveness comes with supreme self-confidence which few youngsters possess.
Ducy i know what you mean, why can't they just let you know ay...went to the movies with her the other night, she invited me in to her house but i had to do my last ever english assignment, wooo 6 days of grade 12 left, so i couldn't go in, she is keen to know what i am up to this weekend so i'm gunna try and seel the deal, if i don't pussy out, my best mate is pushin me pretty hard though lol :-)
EEK, always with the sarcasm, you are obviously very expierianced so maybe you don't remeber what it feels like to have absolutly no f***ing idea what to do, so maybe etheir provide help rather than just make me feel like a fool!
[quote=macka_123;198650]Ducy i know what you mean, why can't they just let you know ay...went to the movies with her the other night, she invited me in to her house but i had to do my last ever english assignment, wooo 6 days of grade 12 left, so i couldn't go in, she is keen to know what i am up to this weekend so i'm gunna try and seel the deal, if i don't pussy out, my best mate is pushin me pretty hard though lol :-)
EEK, always with the sarcasm, you are obviously very expierianced so maybe you don't remeber what it feels like to have absolutly no f***ing idea what to do, so maybe etheir provide help rather than just make me feel like a fool![/quote]
The point all are making, been there too FAKE some confidence if you don't have it.
Trust me, even in the unlikely situation that she does reject you, you will get over it and it will hurt a LOT less than if you don't end up doing anything, and spend months wondering 'what if?' Reminding myself of those things is what gave me confidence when I was first starting to explore with girls. I've been through the what if's, and I've been through rejection, and I faaar prefer rejection. Just think, there is absolutely no chance of success if you don't try.
Just go for it. Best case scenario, all goes great. Worse case scenario, you are no longer kicking yourself about not making a move, and can move on to a different girl. There are thousands available.
Assume she wants you unless she says no. You need to be confident and take the lead.
Dammit, macka, you KNOW what to do.
Stop using your '****ing' lack of confidence as an excuse.
Just go for it. Really, I think she is trying to make it clear that she likes you and she is wondering why you won't give her any signals that you do. I wouldn't cuddle in bed with someone I wasn't interested in. I certainly wouldn't snuggle up and put my hand on the leg of someone who I wasn't interested in. It seems to me like she has done everything but ask you out. And if you don't feel comfortable kissing her, ask her out on a date. At the end of the date, tho, you better kiss her, at least on the cheek! I really doubt if she would reject you. Do it before she decides you aren't interested in her and moves on.
tell us how it goes next time you see her, and making it good when you do finely get with her.
mmm well we both stayed at a mates house in the same bed, no one else in the bed this time but nothing happened, i sorta haved moved on....i've stuffed about too much and just wanna move on myself, i will though hope to use this mistake to learn from....thanx for the advice hope it works for me next time....
In that case, now is the best time to act! It is always hard when you have a 'crush' on someone, because you are extra worried about stuffing it up and losing them. If you don't have strong feelings for her anymore, then it will be much easier to act and more comfortable for you to try stuff. Doing that will give you excellent experience as far as having the balls to try things, not to mention the actual physical experience you may get.
Just make sure you don't lead her on by suggesting you still like her and want a relationship, if she brings it up let her know that you like her as a friend, and maybe friends with benefits, but not more. Otherwise it is just unfair on her.
You had your chance and you BLEW it! Congrats!
She may be compassionate and think it was "just her" or "no chemistry" but do you always want to count on that?
Throw him back, girl! He's not full-grown yet!
hmmmm well i think youve hurt her like EEK said, but wether its good for him to see her now im not sure if you should ask, as if you brake up quickly itll hurt her more than not saying anything.
*ahem*
You're ready for sex when the desire outweighs the fear!
and NOT before.
yeah i really think i'm just not ready, don't worry about her cause i think if she really wanted it to happen she has had the expieriance and knows i am inexpierianced and she would have made it happen if she wanted it badly, she is just a friend now, i think thats all we ever were anyway..... EEK you have some good advice but you are just mean about it, you should try being understanding some time, people appreciate it
Macka - oh sweety I KNOW just what you're going through and oh my dear DARLING little boy I FEEL sooo much sadness for you!
There, feel better?
Please note that all the sympathy in the world - didn't answer your question.
So, you want sympathy and understanding or do you want answers?
EEK, you are a complete ****, i realise this message will get me kicked out or watever but you really are a bitch, **** you you stupid slut
You did ask for sympathy and understanding. Now you tell me you're STILL unhappy? There is just no pleasing some people. Nice language, sweety!
[quote=macka_123;199358]EEK, you are a complete ****, i realise this message will get me kicked out or watever but you really are a bitch, **** you you stupid slut[/quote]I see you have a very high opinion of women...especially when the truth is set forth--talk to a real lady like that & guarantee she will never talk to you.
He probably said the same thing to this lady friend of his 'cause he got tired of waiting for HER to initiate a kiss with him... Boys these days...
[quote=oedipussy;199435]He probably said the same thing to this lady friend of his 'cause he got tired of waiting for HER to initiate a kiss with him... Boys these days...[/quote]Real men are scarce these days!
Yep. Most of these kids really are spoiled brats that don't know how to act like an adult. I'll admit that I'm a jerk a lot of the time, but I do at least TRY not to be... Getting there, I guess. Maybe someday I'll be a real man too!
[quote=oedipussy;199445]Yep. Most of these kids really are spoiled brats that don't know how to act like an adult. I'll admit that I'm a jerk a lot of the time, but I do at least TRY not to be... Getting there, I guess. Maybe someday I'll be a real man too![/quote]You are okay...as I once said to you--you are sitting on the fence of being a "real grown up"...those damned picket fences hurt too...just don't let them stick you in the rump!
an average teenage male gets around 20 simulate erections per day