Physically, the two aren't that different. It's really more of an emotional thing. Someone could be deeply in love with someone yet enjoy dirty pornstar sex. But even though they f*** like whores, they're in love and so it could be mor considered making love.

And in my personal opinion, makinglove should be the only kind of sex there is. But in today's world... *sigh*

making love is personally to me, the best form of sex .

not only are you getting the pleasure of sex , but there are unexplainable emotions in your head that makes making love explosive!
wen u love the person and the person loves you you get the best of both worlds, when in love yous will both be totally relaxed.
another thing(sorry its long) but when you make love , once you orgasim the pleasure isnt over, the cuddling after is unexplainable the sense of happenis between the lovers is pure ... class.

as for sex... = pleasure between the legs not between the people.

its a million times better when u care about the person deeply

I don't really agree with that.
This past time we were together, it was fairly intense I guess you could say. Did we "Get to the point"? Yes. That's what we always do due to lack of time. However, even though the bed was rocking and hitting the wall, there seemed to be a deeper connection between us than previous times. I always look at him when we're doing it (provided it's not doggy style as then, looking is a problem. lol.). I love to stare into his eyes. Usually he tends to close his eyes when we do it, or he at least squints them. But this time, while he did squint some, when he got on top, he stared directly into my eyes and when he did that, that's when the bed started hitting the wall. He's never done that to me before. It was just like something... powerful... happened while we stared at each other. I don't know how to describe it really, but something happened.
Maybe it was a "loving sex" type thing or something. I dunno. lol. It was great whatever it was and he still paid attention to my needs and how I reacted to things during it all, which I think is one of the things that made it so great. Definately won't object to having that again.

lol i think what acid burn is trying to say (and i can correct him cuz he is my bf so im not like being rude or anything) is making love is taken slow and savored, and that sex is like no time is taken u just get straight to the point

ok i think the easiest way to put is that making love is very passionate and sex is breaking lamps

[QUOTE=Quote ]Making love?, Is it really diffrent then having sex...[/QUOTE]
YES, the longer you are into the relationship, the more you love your partner, the more obvious what love making is and what sex is. A couple has both, but only a long term couple can make love. Making love takes time to develop, it requires feelings and emotion and trust, it is more about the physical closeness it brings you than the pure physical pleasure. Love requires time, love for me invloves lots of holding and cuddling and kissing, I sometimes cry tears of joy afterwards.

Sex is best characterised for me when I haven't seen my gf all week and within hours of meeting (typically on a friday night) we will be in the bedroom having sex- the 'release' of sexual tension is important. Saturday morning is when we end up making love, all moring, slow and sensual.

As the others said there's no right or wrong answer. But my handful of experiences of 'making love' have been the best sex of my life without a doubt.

When I broke up with my last girlfriend, we knew that things were terminal (she was moving away, we knew it couldn't go on) but we had one last night together. The passion, the urgency, the electricity between us was just something else. There almost wasn't a whole thought involved all night, things just happened, we knew instinctively what the other wanted and where. Only then did I really see the difference between sex and making love.

Yea I'm sure it being his first time he had a million things on his mind. Doesn't even have to be your first time period.. just the first w/ a new partner.
Like Tease said, give it some time and things will come more natural.
Good Luck!

I'd say not to think too much of it.
That's somewhat normal for someone new to sex and someone having sex for the first time with a different partner.
Give it a few times and you'll get used to each others bodies well and how they function during sex. Then the "making love" process can really begin. lol.

The guy I'm seeing now definitely differentiates between "having sex" and "making love."  I think it's where two people emotionally "connect" with one another.  It's not just about the physical.

Mmmmmmmmmmmm...kissing!  I could kiss him all day long and NEVER be satisfied with the amount of kisses we've shared!!

I love kissing. I think it's one of the hottest things people can do. And I love to kiss while doing it as it turns me on so much more.
And when your partner is a great kisser, it sure doesn't hurt. lol.

I have never 'made love'.

I'm rather prone to 'building love'... I've never quite been able to just 'make' it.

I find it requires far more stacking than I can manage without referring to it as 'building'.

[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ June 05 2005,09:41)]To me though, I don't think you have to be IN love to make love.
I don't necessarily think you have to love either.  I think you have to care on a deeper level than you would care if you were just having sex.  Or something.  lol.[/QUOTE]
I agree.  

I've "made love" with someone I just met... as well as "had sex" with someone that I'd been in love with for years.  For me, having sex is just going through the motions.  It feels good, but there isn't any special connection.  When you "make love", there is an almost physical feeling of being aware of what the other person feels.

To me though, I don't think you have to be IN love to make love.
I don't necessarily think you have to love either. I think you have to care on a deeper level than you would care if you were just having sex. Or something. lol.

I read somewhere it being explained like this. "making love" is sharing something wonderful with another person and not being able to imagine it being someone else. "having sex" is taking and giver could be anyone. From one point it could be somewhat true.
Making love is give and take, it's caring for antoher person, it is sharing. And I would think that it would come easy if you love the person. It is different for everyone, and things might not be the same for you as they would be for me. BUt I think that you talking to him about it might be a great idea. Good luck

...and the answer is? (Inquisitive minds want to know.)

All good answers, these. I wish to add that being in love is about both the emotional experience of caring for and being cared about, plus the connection between the two psyches. There must be "chemistry" and "sparks" for each involved; in otherwords, the pheromones must be in the air. If one or both of you do not experience the physical and emotional aspects that these elements create then you will be having sex, pure and simple.

Making love is the outward expression of this (internal) state of being and is much more than just satisfying an "itch" and pent up sexual tension, or just having some fun. consider that a woman's vagina is the gateway to her soul. The penis is the essense of the man's being (according to us). When a couple makes love, the essense of a man's being passes through the gateway to meet and meld with a woman's soul. The two become one for a moment in time. This simply does not happen when having sex.

Do you love him? Are you in love? Is there a mutual committment to each other and your goals and objectives? Only you can answer this. When you do you will have your answer. How the two of you express it will then take on new meaning and importance.

What an interesting question!

On the surface, it would seem that "making love" is about gentleness, attentiveness and some romantic notions whereas "sex" is about a physical release. "Making love" is somehow sharing sexual pleasure... and using that pleasure as a way of expressing feelings. It's good.

In the context of this thread it might be just that simple... or it could just be that the bf likes the phrase... it sounds better than "let's have sex!"

But I think there's a much deeper level where the line between love and sex disappears. I always hate the advice that includes "you'll know it when you experience it" but in this case it's accurate. Very hard to describe the special place where you're no longer certain what's happening... whether you are having an orgasm or feeling your love for each other spilling over... into and through each other...

Wow.

I think in a sense, a lot of couples "make love" the first time they do it... especially when one or both is a virgin... whether they realize it or not.
And then after that, it just sorta becomes sex. lol.

I can look back on my first time and in a sense, we did "make love". We were not in love and still aren't but we do care for each other and did back then as well. But, when I look back, he paid attention to me and how I felt and made sure that I was ok during it all and that it was what I wanted. And that to me is a form of making love because as emoney said, he was paying attention to my needs, as I was paying attention to his.

Yeah making love is paying attention to the other partners needs and enjoying the embrace of each other while you 2 are sharing this experience.Also I think another point to made about making love is the fact that you making your partner happy is what really makes you happy.

I've been sitting here for a few minutes thinking about how to answer this question. I guess I would say that you've almost already answered your own question. The difference between "making love" and having sex is the emotion involved. It means more because theres emotion behind it, its not just about the pleasure but about the intimacy of the ultimate act of love. I dont know if you were in love with any of your other partners, but the fact that you love your boyfriend will make it all the more special. I really dont think the difference is anything tangible, when the time comes, I think everything will just fall into place.

Taco's your bf is right on!

But, i think its important to note that for EVERY relationship to last you have to be willing to:
-f***/SCREW
-HAVE SEX, and
-MAKE LOVE

It's unrealistic to expect everytime a couple becomes sexually aroused that you are going to "make love." Equally, you can't expect jsut f***ing or HAVING SEX will fill the needs of both partners.

And, to expect both partners to be in the mood to "MAKE LOVE" is also unrealistic. I find that when my partner and I get aroused, one of us will want to just f*** while the other was hoping for someting a bit more romantic and intimate. So, we have a rule, that if we f*** today, that next time we make love. It's worked out well because we talk about sex before we have it. So we set in each other's mind the kind of sex we want. It helps get our expectations in line - and we don't get disappointed as much.

But, i will say this. I AM in love wiht my partner, and sometimes i have to consent to f***ing when i would prefer MAKING LOVE - and he does the same......ya know what, it's really more like courtesy then compromise! ANd to be honest, after a few minutes, i forgot i wanted to MAKE LOVE and start realy f***ing and we both have fun anyway!

The key, for us, is communication! Always has been, always will be!