I'm currently with a really wonderful girl who's (sorry to be blunt) amazing in the sack.
I however, can't seem to get an erection that's hard enough, let alone STAYS hard during sex to make the both of us orgasm. I typically am able to get her anywhere from once to twice in a go depending on the position but for some reason am unable to keep one.
I've been going through a lot of stress lately whatwith moving to a new town and moving to be with her. I'm in the process of finding a job, and let's face it: my LAST girlfriend before my current one...was a dead lay. She'd complain she got tired if on top, and her oral was less than satisfactory. She'd get down there, go up and down maybe 5 times and then start complaining her jaw was "killing her". She was also not ideal to go down on because of the bad taste. I'd have to pinch her or poke her to make her move when she was on top OR bottom. Pretty much the only position she knew and wanted to use was Missionary. She also made no sound, which is something I'm kind of big on. Have I perhaps screwed myself by gaining my sexual experience with her? Mind you, I was with her for 11 months.
She was my first about 2-3 months before I turned 21 last year.
My girlfriend right now says I'm wonderful in bed, and shouldn't worry about not being able to get hard and stay hard. She's been so supportive and understanding about the whole situation. She just holds me and listens. It's nice. She says it could be anything from stress, depression, anxiety, and even not eating a lot. Maybe it's all the Mountain Dew. Haha. I love her, and I know I should probably listen but I told her last night I'm even considering getting Cialis or Viagra to help out now and again. I've NEVER had this problem with my ex, and now that I'm with someone who literally makes me explode....
I'm having this issue. It's embarassing, and depressing in and of itself.
Does ANYONE have ANY ideas/suggestions for me? I'd greatly appreciate it, more than you know. I just want to keep myself feeling good, and make sure I please my girl.
I think he means that he could get her off once or twice before his erection went down.
i think your girlfriend has a pretty good idea of the reasons this may not be happening, i think looking at what you've written about how your life has been latley it is most likley stress, i think you should just wait untill your well and truely comfortable in your move and that you feel secure and happy, then see what happens, if you haven't progressed after that i advice you to probably see a doctor tell him things that have happened how your feeling and what it's causing to happen and he can descide weather your depressed or not then you can go from there. he may give you anti-depressents, he may give you viagra, but you wont have to worry bout that unless you get to that stage. just take it steady and work to enjoy yourself,weather it is in a sexual way or not it doesn't really matter untill you think there is a problem. :)
I'm assuming you're under late 40s/50s, since you said you turned 21 last year...so Viagra is a BAD idea.
Personally, I think its stress or the so-called "performance anxiety". You are worried so much about getting hard and pleasing her, that you can't. Just relax, lay off the sex for a few days and don't plan to have any. Just do it when the moment sparks, and I'm sure you'll get more than hard enough ;). Also, have you been cumming every day or close to? I notice my partner takes longer to get hard if he has been cumming a lot.
my boyfriend is in his early 20's and is having the same problem.
despite me insisting that it was not a problem for me, he tried taking viagra (he had been to his doctor many, many times, and his doctor was positive viagra would work for someone his age)
i don't think its worth it to take viagra if there is nothing physically wrong with you. (i truly, truly believed it was all in his head) we would sit around waiting for it to kick in, and then it would come out of nowhere, except i couldn't be ready at the drop of a hat :(
Try an erection ring. You can get some here:
http://www.spicygear.com/erection-rings/
forget the viagra ! from what i understand you can have 1-2 goes at it before you can't stay hard, thats not bad and as you used to do better it's probably you new situation just ease up a bit the more you worry the worse it gets and viagra is not just some magic pill.