i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and this weekend we went away and we were talking and i explained to him how much i loved him and how i have never felt this madly in love before, and silly me thought that he loved me to , i thought to my self should i ask him if he actually loves me, so i did and to my dissapointment he sed that he didnt love me but he cares for me! i am so upset and i feel heart broken!! my boyfriend is the man of my dreams and i just cant understand why he doesnt love me! it is very confusing as he has always sed that he loves me when we r on the fone or just when we are together! it felt weird all weekend when i am with him! we went on a romantic walk and things but at the back of my mind i no that he doesnt love me ! has anyone ever had this happen to them? please give me some advice on what i should do as i am very confused and upset!
thank you, Tess xx
Tue, 08/16/2005 - 20:30
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Love troubles
thanks eveyone
GREAT!
glad to hear things are going better.
hey things with me and my boyfriend are alot better now thank you
Hey TLC, are things going better with you and your boyfriend?
I'm afraid you can't "make" him love you... love just doesn't work that way.
Part of what you have to do is look deep and hard at this question: Can you truly love some one without receiving that love in return?
The tempting answer is "yes" and it's a bit of a myth that's been perpetuated down throught the ages. It seems some how noble to "love" some one unselfishly. But it ain't very practical in the long run.
I'm sure your hurt is real, but unless he is interested in making your relationship "like it used to be," you will have to move on.... it's difficult, but you can and you will.
My relationship is getting worse
someone please help me im so depressed and i have noone to turn to for help!! my boyfriend just isnt acting his normal self, he is acting like he doesnt want to no me at all!! I
ts really hurting me as i do love him so much it may sound silly because of my age but i do so much i just want my relationship 2 be like how it used 2 be please someone help me!!
My relationship is getting worse
someone please help me im so depressed and i have noone to turn to for help!! my boyfriend just isnt acting his normal self, he is acting like he doesnt want to no me at all!!
Its really hurting me as i do love him so much it may sound silly because of my age but i do so much i just want my relationship 2 be like how it used 2 be please someone help me!!
what did you lot do when this happened to you?
i dont think that we r in a relationship just for the sex though? ( im not saying that the sex isnt good though coz its bloody amazing !!!) we both get on so well like were ment to be together?
In med school, I lived with a guy for three nearly three years. It was for sex, convience, finances. All worked out fine but I worried about one of us falling while the other did not. We each did, at different times, and went our separate ways.
Love and sex are complicated.
I'm a guy who has (or had, until Loripop LOL) trouble with the words "I love you," so I would tend to suggest some further exploration. If he's acting like he loves you... cares for you... I'd suggest finding out what all that means! Talk with him about what "love" means... what "caring" is...
There are many possible reasons a person might hold back on saying "I love you" including his/her own fear of what it means. Don't stop loving him yet. Be patient and listen. He might surprise you. Ask my Loripop! LOL
we have been together for a year and a half!. we have both been through so much together (personal things) and if we made it through that i fort he might of loved me !! i just cant understand it at all
I have had my heart broken same way but i ended up finding out that she was cheating on me with someone else. She wouldnt say "i love u" over the phone, it was like pulling teeth but i never confronted her on it till the end. By that time it was too late, she had started to have feelings for someone else but she found it hard to let me go especially when she was close to me and my family. She finally came out and told me the truth but she had this hope that she kept me around thinking that things with the guy would not go further which eventually it did. I would sit down with him and talk about the issue, is he afraid to take the realtionship to another level or is there an outside distraction? How long have you guys been together?